"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Ex's Birthday Coming Up

onemorerobot

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My girlfriend dumped me two days ago. Her bithday is on the fourteenth. Would it be inappropriate if I got her a gift?
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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BacardiGuy

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She dumped you, forget her. If you so much as text her "happy birthday" consider your man card revoked.
 

hi2u

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Amen to that. It's obvious you have oneitis with her. Don't be fooled... she is probably already seeing someone else or has commited to singleness for a while (aka she hasn't found someone to sweep her off her feet).
 

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Yes it would be inappropriate. You shouldn't even contact her.
 

onemorerobot

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This doesn't really have anything to do with oneitis. We both agreed that we'd stay friends.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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WC2

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You're questioning us on what your own morals are. Do what you feel is right. While wishing her a happy birthday might feel humiliating, avoiding the whole ordeal will only reveal the reason behind it. Think about it.
 

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She's the one that dumped you. No need to wish her a happy birthday.
 

Fash

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Dude,

If you guys talked about things and you decided to stay friends, then the polite and normal thing to do is to simply get her a card and wish her happy birthday, in the same way you would do to any of your friends.

She isn't your arch enemy! She was your gf one day, and it sounds like it wasnt a bad breakup since you have decided to stay friends.

Infact, you should be glad that she has decided to break up with you rather than cheat on you.

So be a man, and very casually just wish her happy birthday and show her that you are a strong ALPHA MALE and it will take a lot more than a girl dumping you to bring you down!
 

Francisco d'Anconia

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onemorerobot said:
My girlfriend dumped me two days ago. Her bithday is on the fourteenth. Would it be inappropriate if I got her a gift?
Why are you considering this? Do you regularly give birthday gifts to all of your friends?
 

Yuriy777

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onemorerobot said:
My girlfriend dumped me two days ago. Her bithday is on the fourteenth. Would it be inappropriate if I got her a gift?
Give her nothing more than a birthday card, or face the wrath of the sosuave forums :trouble:. lol
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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