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Explanations on how ugly guys get hotter girls

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Not always true. Attraction is a feeling. Feelings change regularly. What you feel today about someone you might not feel tomorrow, a month or 6 months from now.

People are too hung up on this notion that things are black or white when it almost always is gray.
i agree, I guess what I meant is that guys that think they are friendzoned are actually in the no attraction zone
 

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i agree, I guess what I meant is that guys that think they are friendzoned are actually in the no attraction zone
I agree with that. However, most of the times the guy in the friendzone isn’t a level below her. He’s actually on her level but she thinks she can do better. She can’t, but she thinks she can. Why do you think so many guys in the friendzone end up meeting girls that look better than the girl that friendzoned them? It ain’t luck. It’s the fact that they were on her level the whole time and she was too stupid to see it and didn’t want to admit it.
 

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The only time when “feelings” change is when the woman is out of options and she remembers you. I’ve had this happen to me multiple times. When the girl was in her prime I wasn’t even an option, but now that she’s 30lbs overweight I’m suddenly an option and she comes after me hard. I’m still the same guy I was back then, still look the same but suddenly her “feelings” are different. I honestly don’t put much stock into women’s feelings because they’re so shallow.
Feelings are open to manipulation...how do you think guys get women addicted to them?
 
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I also forgot to mention in 6 is that the guy could’ve looked liked her exes. It’s funny how women will only date the same type of guy
I have noticed this with an x, I find that hilarious. She can't have the prototype so she has to find a imitation. Very laughable.
 

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#6 is probably the most common. The guy has at least one wildcard like height. Or she likes his hair, beard, tats, eyes, voice, arms/chest/shoulders, skin tone, or some other specific feature.
You don’t know how many times I’ve heard girls say “he’s hot because he is TALL.’
 

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You don’t know how many times I’ve heard girls say “he’s hot because he is TALL.’
Agreed. I posted a true story about a female friend mentioning how “hot” this club guy was when she only saw the back of his head. Never saw his face.* The fact that he was the tallest guy in a circle of people was enough.

*His back was towards us the entire time as he was chatting with his friends.
 

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Feelings are open to manipulation...how do you think guys get women addicted to them?
She’s got to be high interest from the get go in order for that to happen though. Good luck manipulating the feelings of a low interest woman.
 

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You don’t know how many times I’ve heard girls say “he’s hot because he is TALL.’
Because the media and other girls have TOLD them to think being talk is hot. Women do not have their own standards, they can’t think for themselves.
 

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7) Moneyyyyyy- pretty self explanatory because this is the most notable one
The most common one.

3) Simp Betabuxing- This woman has so many skeletons/baggage that the only man that will commit to her is a beta male simp. This girl could have 3 kids from a dude in jail. This woman could have mental health issues. I could go on, but just like 1) you only see a beta male with a hot girl, so you completely disregard the situation.
Getting more common, especially with aging hotties in their 30s/early 40s.

6) Extreme Physical Preferences- This also applies to men(black men cough cough) but some women value race to a point that they are willing to date down in looks to be with a certain race. I used to see this with asian women and white men, but I' see it 99% of the time with black women and white men. In addition, a woman might date down if the guy is tall, skinny, beard, dad bod,baby faced, or etc.
Yes, this happens, but less often than the two I highlighted above in my experience.
 

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I have seen ugly guys who don’t have money or status and were not simps land highly coveted girls.This reminds me of a guy I knew who was an absolute POS.Was short,unathletic,owed a lot of guys money(even became a pariah because of it),and yes,was also below average in looks.And yet,he managed to land this girl who had every guy stumbling.

We were all stumped.

Believe it or not,but “game”,social skills,whatever you want to call it,is a factor.
It’s not game.

Pics or it didn’t exist lol
 

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Often times, what we perceive as attractive is not shared by women. There are countless times where I’ve asked a woman what drew her to a man, and she replied that he was just so “Hot”. Keep in mind, I think the dude is hideous. It goes to show you, that all women have a certain type and find different things attractive.
 

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Often times, what we perceive as attractive is not shared by women. There are countless times where I’ve asked a woman what drew her to a man, and she replied that he was just so “Hot”. Keep in mind, I think the dude is hideous. It goes to show you, that all women have a certain type and find different things attractive.
Yea I think it's funny on here when guys rate other guys. Like their opinion on the topic matters.

Like if I said that I personally think that Leonardo DiCaprio is just average. Who cares what I think on the subject?
 

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1) You are pedestalizing the girl. Most of the time, the girl is on or near the same league as the guy and you are just wearing your pvssy goggles because you are beta af or jealous that you aren't getting laid right now. Men also have a bad habit of assuming any girl that puts up a normal appearance in public is normal and an angel when she can more than likely be some mentally crazy hoe with a pot problem.

2) The Post glow up.. Maybe they have been dating for a while and during the process the guy let himself go and doesn't look like the Mike she was initially attracted to. In addition, she cannot just leave the relationship due to an assortment of reasons. You see this couple and it looks like this bloated bum of a man got in to a relationship with this gorgeous woman, but in actually this guy used to be way better looking and let himself go.

3) Simp Betabuxing- This woman has so many skeletons/baggage that the only man that will commit to her is a beta male simp. This girl could have 3 kids from a dude in jail. This woman could have mental health issues. I could go on, but just like 1) you only see a beta male with a hot girl, so you completely disregard the situation.

4) Dating down for security and power- This woman prefers to have a man she can command and mentally dominate over a good looking Chad that will do the **** whatever he wants and treat her as a second option

5) First BF- This girl met this man before she realized her full potential

6) Extreme Physical Preferences- This also applies to men(black men cough cough) but some women value race to a point that they are willing to date down in looks to be with a certain race. I used to see this with asian women and white men, but I' see it 99% of the time with black women and white men. In addition, a woman might date down if the guy is tall, skinny, beard, dad bod,baby faced, or etc.

7) Moneyyyyyy- pretty self explanatory because this is the most notable one
All good reasons, but I will go with #4 as probably the most common.
 

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All good reasons, but I will go with #4 as probably the most common.
I know this girl from the gym. Mid 20's, long blonde hair, thin and striking blue eyes. I would not call her face beautiful, but she's definitely photogenic and attractive. I've talked to her numerous times and she is nice and normal.

Her fiance or possibly husband now is some overweight (about 50 to 75 lbs) gold chain wearing Guido.

Everytime I see pics on facebook I just want to cringe and it baffles me that she is with this guy.
 

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In my experience the times I’ve been friendzoned it was always girls that were on my level. I’ve had MUCH better success shooting my shot with women I considered to be above me in looks.
this data point by itself tells that you are selling yourself low. you are of higher value than you think, and the women know it.
 

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this data point by itself tells that you are selling yourself low. you are of higher value than you think, and the women know it.
Or...

It could show that a lot of hotter girls are obtained simply by whoever has the courage to approach them.
 
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