You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
One of my good friends has a degree in exercise science and he is very happy with his degree and what it has allowed him to do in a field he loves. Who the hell do you think you are to talk badly about strangers and judge others accomplishments ???
I never mentioned anything about her liking OR not liking sex, their isn't anything wrong with that. What turned me off is the fact she feels what she is doing is alright and you also have to keep in mind that she was doing the same thing in college. On top of that she is constantly clubbing and partying it up so for me personally I didn't find her destructive lifestyle let alone her destructive behavior too appealing. But again it comes down to your personal choices/standards so if you feel that you wouldn't mind having sloppy 4th's all the power to you because your a better man than I am. Too add to it what ABOUT those guys...? I'm not one of them...? It ain't me so why would it matter to me what those OTHER guys do. I love how you just add things to my post!
One of your good friends huh!!? :crackup: Who talked badly...? That is the TRUTH, it's nothing special where it will open up a lot of doors unlike some of the other Science degrees like Physics or Mathematics. I gave him pertinent information so it would provide some ideas in making a sound decision based on what the expectations are. I'm not looking down or anything because their isn't anything wrong with the degree especially if you like it but I'm assuming that if this person is looking to make lots of money than according to the data he might end up struggling that is why I was saying networking & building contact would be a must.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.