"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Ex-oneitus's Bday is coming up

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Originally posted by Kaine
This is another example of typical AFC behaviour. He's paralysed by analysis over a "sweet girl" who realistically only dated one month in a non exclusive dating where she finally LJBFs him.

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Exactly
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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*Blocks Kaine's backhand*

That was not AFC - she never LJBF me. It just ended, b/c of the distance (2 hours) and probably b/c she found someone else. At the time, I didn't even see it coming from her.. but alas you live, learn, and move on.

Today is her bday. AHHHH! must decide... what... to do.....

To be a dyck/jerk and either raise her IL or it might backfire and I risk burning a bridge for good.... or to be a good guy and pander to her ego... ahhhh!!!
 
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Then it ended after I sent her an email telling her I want to hang out more(when she started flaking on my date offers) and she responded with that she doesnt want to get into anything right now.. which basically meant to me is that she doesnt want a relationship with "me."
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Strange I thought you knew how to read ********.

I was going to say rejection, but LJBF sounded less painful.

Guys

If a women flakes on you
Tells you she's not ready for "anything right now"
Then comes back and gives you intermittent attention YET does not put out. You have LJBFed.

Kaine
 
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Originally posted by MindOverMatter
If you don't wanna get back with her, then just call her and wish her a happy birthday as you would to a friend. Don't think much of it man.
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EXACTLY. The fact that you had to come here and ask us do you call your EX on her BDay tells me you still have feelings for her.

Dont' be a **** and not call just to prove apoint...expically to yourself. That's just dumb.

You can easily call and say happy B-Day and talk for a sec, tell her you will talk to her later and leave.

Did this really deserve it's own post?
 
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