"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

Read more...

Ex-oneitus's Bday is coming up

T

Trance

Master Don Juan
Joined
Jan 23, 2004
Messages
590
Reaction score
0
Age
45
Location
Portugal
Originally posted by Kaine
This is another example of typical AFC behaviour. He's paralysed by analysis over a "sweet girl" who realistically only dated one month in a non exclusive dating where she finally LJBFs him.

Click to expand...
Exactly
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

Read more...

V

vrad

Don Juan
Joined
Sep 21, 2004
Messages
19
Reaction score
0
*Blocks Kaine's backhand*

That was not AFC - she never LJBF me. It just ended, b/c of the distance (2 hours) and probably b/c she found someone else. At the time, I didn't even see it coming from her.. but alas you live, learn, and move on.

Today is her bday. AHHHH! must decide... what... to do.....

To be a dyck/jerk and either raise her IL or it might backfire and I risk burning a bridge for good.... or to be a good guy and pander to her ego... ahhhh!!!
 
K

Kaine

Senior Don Juan
Joined
Nov 11, 2004
Messages
475
Reaction score
1
Location
In your head
Then it ended after I sent her an email telling her I want to hang out more(when she started flaking on my date offers) and she responded with that she doesnt want to get into anything right now.. which basically meant to me is that she doesnt want a relationship with "me."
Click to expand...
Strange I thought you knew how to read ********.

I was going to say rejection, but LJBF sounded less painful.

Guys

If a women flakes on you
Tells you she's not ready for "anything right now"
Then comes back and gives you intermittent attention YET does not put out. You have LJBFed.

Kaine
 
B

backbreaker

Master Don Juan
Joined
Apr 24, 2002
Messages
11,546
Reaction score
572
Location
monrovia, CA
Originally posted by MindOverMatter
If you don't wanna get back with her, then just call her and wish her a happy birthday as you would to a friend. Don't think much of it man.
Click to expand...
EXACTLY. The fact that you had to come here and ask us do you call your EX on her BDay tells me you still have feelings for her.

Dont' be a **** and not call just to prove apoint...expically to yourself. That's just dumb.

You can easily call and say happy B-Day and talk for a sec, tell her you will talk to her later and leave.

Did this really deserve it's own post?
 
You must log in or register to reply here.
22 Rules for Massive Success With Women
Top