Ex not texting back after first date

[AM349]

I was dating this girl last november till januari. I Decided to end things in januari because she kept pushing for something more serious and her behaviour outside of the dates started to annoy me.

This month she decided to text me again because she saw a instagram post of me on a concert. We texted for a bit and then I asked her out on a date. The date was fun and we F of course.

It has been about 10 days since the date, and she has not texted me.

This was one of the reasons why I dropped her the first time, because she likes playing games like this (she has told me).

Yes, i have other plates that i am seeing, but of course theire is some emotion involved with this one, and our time was fun so what would be the correct course of action?

Let her initiate and put in the effort or, just ask her out again?

 

[BackInTheGame78]

She isn't interested enough. You were a backup plan when something else fell thru and she didn't want to be bored that day...

Move on and stop living life in the rear view mirror.

 

[SW15]

It has been about 10 days since the date, and she has not texted me.

This was one of the reasons why I dropped her the first time, because she likes playing games like this (she has told me).

Have you texted her during those 10 days?

I was dating this girl last november till januari. I Decided to end things in januari because she kept pushing for something more serious and her behaviour outside of the dates started to annoy me.

That likely didn't want something more serious if you had concerns about her behavior outside of dates. I could imagine it would be annoying to have subpar communication outside of dates.

I have disliked the text message era more because of stuff like this. I liked it better when more early stage communications were done with voice communication on the telephone. You are 21, so you never got to experience that. I am in my early 40s, so I got to experience an era around your age where cell phones were more for voice calling than sending text messages.

She isn't interested enough.

Move on and stop living life in the rear view mirror.

This is the likely course of action. I want a little bit more information from @AM349 before telling him what to do now.

 

[Vanderdonck]

Yeah she wanted to know that you still desired her and she found out. Be glad you got a f-k out of it, most guys get schooled after giving a little attention.

 

[The Duke]

I was dating this girl last november till januari. I Decided to end things in januari because she kept pushing for something more serious and her behaviour outside of the dates started to annoy me.

This month she decided to text me again because she saw a instagram post of me on a concert. We texted for a bit and then I asked her out on a date. The date was fun and we F of course.

It has been about 10 days since the date, and she has not texted me.

This was one of the reasons why I dropped her the first time, because she likes playing games like this (she has told me).

Yes, i have other plates that i am seeing, but of course theire is some emotion involved with this one, and our time was fun so what would be the correct course of action?

Let her initiate and put in the effort or, just ask her out again?

You play the exact same game she plays. She needs to wonder what you are up to. Don't communicate for a few weeks and wait to see if she hits you up again. If she doesn't, ask her out again. These types are always triggered by things like your instagram concert post.

Girls like this are a pain in the azz, and never worth the return on in investment which is why you need to stop investing mentally in her.

 

[AM349]

Have you texted her during those 10 days?



That likely didn't want something more serious if you had concerns about her behavior outside of dates. I could imagine it would be annoying to have subpar communication outside of dates.

I have disliked the text message era more because of stuff like this. I liked it better when more early stage communications were done with voice communication on the telephone. You are 21, so you never got to experience that. I am in my early 40s, so I got to experience an era around your age where cell phones were more for voice calling than sending text messages.



This is the likely course of action. I want a little bit more information from @AM349 before telling him what to do now.

Thank you for your response. No I haven’t texted her either after the date. What would you like to know?

 

[SW15]

Thank you for your response. No I haven’t texted her either after the date. What would you like to know?

You're acting too passive.

If you had called/texted her and gotten no response, then she clearly had a lack of interest.

You sitting on your butt and doing nothing for 10 days is inconclusive. You have likely made her less likely to respond to you because you've done nothing for 10 days.

You are the male. You need to initiate if you are interested.

In general, it seems like there's been a bad pattern that's developed between the two of you.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

Listen to this song on repeat until you get it OP.

"I don't want to live a lie...
Too many sleepless nights...
Not mentioning the fights...
I'm sorry to say, lady...

I'm walking away...
from the troubles in my life...
I'm walking away...
Ohhhh...To find a better day..."

A large portion of men would do well to understand this and stop wasting their lives on worthless women and worthless relationships that are only holding them back in life and finding someone worthy of them.