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fanren

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well i broke up with my gf last week and she still calls and emails me. saying i think about you and miss you blah. well i do too but i dont know if i should say it to her. does she want me back or is she just venting?

i know this sounds awful but i want to keep her as a back up, so whats the most tactful way of going about on this?

thanks
 

fanren

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forgot to mention that i dont see a point in talking to her unless we are getting back together. so how can i gauge that?
 

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You want to keep her as a backup but you dont see a point in talking to her unless you are getting back together? If you get back together, how can she be a backup?
 

fanren

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nm i faked myself out

girls are still mind boggling to me
 

penkitten

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contact means shes not done.

doesnt nessecarily mean she wants you back, might mean shes bitter and wants you to pay.

never the less, shes not done .

its up to you if you want to stop contact, and if so make it happen.
 

What happens, IN HER MIND, is that she comes to see you as WORTHLESS simply because she hasn't had to INVEST anything in you in order to get you or to keep you.

You were an interesting diversion while she had nothing else to do. But now that someone a little more valuable has come along, someone who expects her to treat him very well, she'll have no problem at all dropping you or demoting you to lowly "friendship" status.

Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.

Bradshaw

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Sometimes when you break up with a girl, she will try to get back together with you so that SHE can end it a few days later. They do this so that they feel like they were the ones who dumped you. This doesn't happen a lot, but I have seen it happen more than once.
 
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