"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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ex keeps contacting

fanren

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well i broke up with my gf last week and she still calls and emails me. saying i think about you and miss you blah. well i do too but i dont know if i should say it to her. does she want me back or is she just venting?

i know this sounds awful but i want to keep her as a back up, so whats the most tactful way of going about on this?

thanks
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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fanren

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forgot to mention that i dont see a point in talking to her unless we are getting back together. so how can i gauge that?
 

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You want to keep her as a backup but you dont see a point in talking to her unless you are getting back together? If you get back together, how can she be a backup?
 

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nm i faked myself out

girls are still mind boggling to me
 

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contact means shes not done.

doesnt nessecarily mean she wants you back, might mean shes bitter and wants you to pay.

never the less, shes not done .

its up to you if you want to stop contact, and if so make it happen.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Sometimes when you break up with a girl, she will try to get back together with you so that SHE can end it a few days later. They do this so that they feel like they were the ones who dumped you. This doesn't happen a lot, but I have seen it happen more than once.
 
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