Buddha_Mind
Master Don Juan
Good lord this woman is insane.
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
ex-girlfriend says she's pregnant
- Thread starter rbd
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
backbreaker
Master Don Juan
Neve had the I lost the pregnancy. Will admit though when I found out my fiancee was pregnant, about...8 months into our relationship I was pretty skeptical. Even made her get a test which did not go over too well.
Well you guys were right on. She called me and said she "started bleeding". Definitely wasn't pregnant in the first place. Then she got real nice and said how much she still had feelings for me and thought about me and such. I had a hard time getting her off the phone. Bytch should of thought of that while she was with me. Hopefully she's better with the next guy she's with.
Thank God that is over. And thank you guys for the insight! I got another girl who wants to see me this "whenever I have time" and asked me straight up if I was single, so I'm moving on. (Hopefully this one isn't too nutty. :/)
Thank God that is over. And thank you guys for the insight! I got another girl who wants to see me this "whenever I have time" and asked me straight up if I was single, so I'm moving on. (Hopefully this one isn't too nutty. :/)
Boilermaker
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I am glad it worked out like this.
Don't go raw with this one
Don't go raw with this one
jophil28
Master Don Juan
Don't bet on that. If she has BPD traits she will be back in some form inside three weeks.rbd said:
I have a paperback on BPD -it is entitled ," I Hate you, Don't leave me."
Paul, in the Greek Scriptures wisely said "Put on the suit of armor.."
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Well, the drama continues (just as you guys said it would). She and her friend messaged one of my longtime buddies on Facebook yesterday and got flirty with him. He then told me about it. She expressed some interest in him the last time we broke up (not sure if she was just trying to get my goat or not).
Of course this girl is trying to push all of my buttons and involve me again in her life. So the rule is no contact, even when she resorts to shyt like that? I guess I'll learn who my real friends are depending on what happens here...
From what I've read of the BPD thread, these kinds of things seem to play themselves out in very similar ways. This will make me think twice about getting involved (and staying involved with) girls with issues. I messed up by not getting out of this sooner.
Of course this girl is trying to push all of my buttons and involve me again in her life. So the rule is no contact, even when she resorts to shyt like that? I guess I'll learn who my real friends are depending on what happens here...
From what I've read of the BPD thread, these kinds of things seem to play themselves out in very similar ways. This will make me think twice about getting involved (and staying involved with) girls with issues. I messed up by not getting out of this sooner.
Kailex
Master Don Juan
Any reaction you demonstrate to her, is a favorable reaction FOR her.
The best way to react, is to not react at all.
Like you said, you'll find out who you're real friends are.
She WILL try to push more buttons.
The best way to react, is to not react at all.
Like you said, you'll find out who you're real friends are.
She WILL try to push more buttons.
So, I met up with a previous girl I knew last night at a bonfire party. Extremely high IL on her part. Ended up taking her back to my house and messing around (she definitely had the Anti-Slut Defense going through). She's 28 too and I got the feeling she's definitely trying to push this thing in the way of a relationship. Definitely not ready for that anytime soon, but it's good to have a girl with that IL around to see once a week or so.
Beyond that, I have a definite reasons to believe one of my good friends has moved in on my ex and is hiding it from me. His and her comments in passing were way off, he's hiding things on his facebook status, mysteriously absent at nights lately when he'd come out, etc. What really gets my blood going about this is not the actual fact of that (I broke up with her for a reason), but the fact that it could be going on and I wouldn't know, and would be continuing to hang out with him quite a bit.
How do you guys react to these situations? I don't want to let the negative emotions get to me with this and turn me into something I don't want to become, but at the same time I HATE being taken for a sucker. If he's doing this, then I'd want him out of my life along with her. Possibly the truth may come out sooner or later, but if they're sneaky about it, that may never end up happening.
Beyond that, I have a definite reasons to believe one of my good friends has moved in on my ex and is hiding it from me. His and her comments in passing were way off, he's hiding things on his facebook status, mysteriously absent at nights lately when he'd come out, etc. What really gets my blood going about this is not the actual fact of that (I broke up with her for a reason), but the fact that it could be going on and I wouldn't know, and would be continuing to hang out with him quite a bit.
How do you guys react to these situations? I don't want to let the negative emotions get to me with this and turn me into something I don't want to become, but at the same time I HATE being taken for a sucker. If he's doing this, then I'd want him out of my life along with her. Possibly the truth may come out sooner or later, but if they're sneaky about it, that may never end up happening.
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Bluntmaster
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rbd said:
HAHAHA she is f/cking your best friend. She did it to get to you and it worked. He couldn't resist her throwing the p/ssy at him.
He should have told you though before he did it. Even if you wouldn't have approved. He's a punk for that.
Bluntmaster said:
No doubt it got to me. Ex of two years, a week or two after we last had sex (bytch kept coming back around and I was WEAK), and if this is true, this dude just pops right in and goes for it? If that is indeed the case, that's fvcked up.
Bluntmaster
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rbd said:
He's a b!tch for doing it behind your back. I would get rid of him next.
PokerInTheRear
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Sometimes the best revenge is letting him have her.rbd said:
sodbuster
Master Don Juan
Since you tossed her, I see no real problem with it...other than his not asking. Hell, I'd give my ex wife to whoever wants her.The BIGGER problem is WHY you care? Still have feelings for her?He'll be SORRRRRRRY[he wasn't listening when you talked about her?]
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
jophil28
Master Don Juan
So let me get this straight. You said above that you are mad with yourself for being WEAK because you got hoovered into the vagina game, and now you are mad with him because he is just as weak....rbd said:
Hmm, there is a certain consistency in your thinking, I suppose.
However, she has you all burned, but if you say any words of anger to either him or her, you are toast.
THis is one of those dramas that women excell in creating.
You have no real choice but to suck it up, drop him out of your life and never bother with her ever again.