Buddha_Mind
Master Don Juan
Good lord this woman is insane.
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
ex-girlfriend says she's pregnant
- Thread starter rbd
- Start date
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
backbreaker
Master Don Juan
Neve had the I lost the pregnancy. Will admit though when I found out my fiancee was pregnant, about...8 months into our relationship I was pretty skeptical. Even made her get a test which did not go over too well.
Well you guys were right on. She called me and said she "started bleeding". Definitely wasn't pregnant in the first place. Then she got real nice and said how much she still had feelings for me and thought about me and such. I had a hard time getting her off the phone. Bytch should of thought of that while she was with me. Hopefully she's better with the next guy she's with.
Thank God that is over. And thank you guys for the insight! I got another girl who wants to see me this "whenever I have time" and asked me straight up if I was single, so I'm moving on. (Hopefully this one isn't too nutty. :/)
Thank God that is over. And thank you guys for the insight! I got another girl who wants to see me this "whenever I have time" and asked me straight up if I was single, so I'm moving on. (Hopefully this one isn't too nutty. :/)
Boilermaker
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I am glad it worked out like this.
Don't go raw with this one
Don't go raw with this one
jophil28
Master Don Juan
Don't bet on that. If she has BPD traits she will be back in some form inside three weeks.rbd said:
I have a paperback on BPD -it is entitled ," I Hate you, Don't leave me."
Paul, in the Greek Scriptures wisely said "Put on the suit of armor.."
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Well, the drama continues (just as you guys said it would). She and her friend messaged one of my longtime buddies on Facebook yesterday and got flirty with him. He then told me about it. She expressed some interest in him the last time we broke up (not sure if she was just trying to get my goat or not).
Of course this girl is trying to push all of my buttons and involve me again in her life. So the rule is no contact, even when she resorts to shyt like that? I guess I'll learn who my real friends are depending on what happens here...
From what I've read of the BPD thread, these kinds of things seem to play themselves out in very similar ways. This will make me think twice about getting involved (and staying involved with) girls with issues. I messed up by not getting out of this sooner.
Of course this girl is trying to push all of my buttons and involve me again in her life. So the rule is no contact, even when she resorts to shyt like that? I guess I'll learn who my real friends are depending on what happens here...
From what I've read of the BPD thread, these kinds of things seem to play themselves out in very similar ways. This will make me think twice about getting involved (and staying involved with) girls with issues. I messed up by not getting out of this sooner.
Kailex
Master Don Juan
Any reaction you demonstrate to her, is a favorable reaction FOR her.
The best way to react, is to not react at all.
Like you said, you'll find out who you're real friends are.
She WILL try to push more buttons.
The best way to react, is to not react at all.
Like you said, you'll find out who you're real friends are.
She WILL try to push more buttons.
So, I met up with a previous girl I knew last night at a bonfire party. Extremely high IL on her part. Ended up taking her back to my house and messing around (she definitely had the Anti-Slut Defense going through). She's 28 too and I got the feeling she's definitely trying to push this thing in the way of a relationship. Definitely not ready for that anytime soon, but it's good to have a girl with that IL around to see once a week or so.
Beyond that, I have a definite reasons to believe one of my good friends has moved in on my ex and is hiding it from me. His and her comments in passing were way off, he's hiding things on his facebook status, mysteriously absent at nights lately when he'd come out, etc. What really gets my blood going about this is not the actual fact of that (I broke up with her for a reason), but the fact that it could be going on and I wouldn't know, and would be continuing to hang out with him quite a bit.
How do you guys react to these situations? I don't want to let the negative emotions get to me with this and turn me into something I don't want to become, but at the same time I HATE being taken for a sucker. If he's doing this, then I'd want him out of my life along with her. Possibly the truth may come out sooner or later, but if they're sneaky about it, that may never end up happening.
Beyond that, I have a definite reasons to believe one of my good friends has moved in on my ex and is hiding it from me. His and her comments in passing were way off, he's hiding things on his facebook status, mysteriously absent at nights lately when he'd come out, etc. What really gets my blood going about this is not the actual fact of that (I broke up with her for a reason), but the fact that it could be going on and I wouldn't know, and would be continuing to hang out with him quite a bit.
How do you guys react to these situations? I don't want to let the negative emotions get to me with this and turn me into something I don't want to become, but at the same time I HATE being taken for a sucker. If he's doing this, then I'd want him out of my life along with her. Possibly the truth may come out sooner or later, but if they're sneaky about it, that may never end up happening.
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Bluntmaster
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rbd said:
HAHAHA she is f/cking your best friend. She did it to get to you and it worked. He couldn't resist her throwing the p/ssy at him.
He should have told you though before he did it. Even if you wouldn't have approved. He's a punk for that.
Bluntmaster said:
No doubt it got to me. Ex of two years, a week or two after we last had sex (bytch kept coming back around and I was WEAK), and if this is true, this dude just pops right in and goes for it? If that is indeed the case, that's fvcked up.
Bluntmaster
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rbd said:
He's a b!tch for doing it behind your back. I would get rid of him next.
PokerInTheRear
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Sometimes the best revenge is letting him have her.rbd said:
sodbuster
Master Don Juan
Since you tossed her, I see no real problem with it...other than his not asking. Hell, I'd give my ex wife to whoever wants her.The BIGGER problem is WHY you care? Still have feelings for her?He'll be SORRRRRRRY[he wasn't listening when you talked about her?]
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
jophil28
Master Don Juan
So let me get this straight. You said above that you are mad with yourself for being WEAK because you got hoovered into the vagina game, and now you are mad with him because he is just as weak....rbd said:
Hmm, there is a certain consistency in your thinking, I suppose.
However, she has you all burned, but if you say any words of anger to either him or her, you are toast.
THis is one of those dramas that women excell in creating.
You have no real choice but to suck it up, drop him out of your life and never bother with her ever again.