Buddha_Mind
Master Don Juan
Good lord this woman is insane.
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
ex-girlfriend says she's pregnant
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
backbreaker
Master Don Juan
Neve had the I lost the pregnancy. Will admit though when I found out my fiancee was pregnant, about...8 months into our relationship I was pretty skeptical. Even made her get a test which did not go over too well.
Well you guys were right on. She called me and said she "started bleeding". Definitely wasn't pregnant in the first place. Then she got real nice and said how much she still had feelings for me and thought about me and such. I had a hard time getting her off the phone. Bytch should of thought of that while she was with me. Hopefully she's better with the next guy she's with.
Thank God that is over. And thank you guys for the insight! I got another girl who wants to see me this "whenever I have time" and asked me straight up if I was single, so I'm moving on. (Hopefully this one isn't too nutty. :/)
Thank God that is over. And thank you guys for the insight! I got another girl who wants to see me this "whenever I have time" and asked me straight up if I was single, so I'm moving on. (Hopefully this one isn't too nutty. :/)
Boilermaker
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I am glad it worked out like this.
Don't go raw with this one
Don't go raw with this one
jophil28
Master Don Juan
Don't bet on that. If she has BPD traits she will be back in some form inside three weeks.rbd said:
I have a paperback on BPD -it is entitled ," I Hate you, Don't leave me."
Paul, in the Greek Scriptures wisely said "Put on the suit of armor.."
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Well, the drama continues (just as you guys said it would). She and her friend messaged one of my longtime buddies on Facebook yesterday and got flirty with him. He then told me about it. She expressed some interest in him the last time we broke up (not sure if she was just trying to get my goat or not).
Of course this girl is trying to push all of my buttons and involve me again in her life. So the rule is no contact, even when she resorts to shyt like that? I guess I'll learn who my real friends are depending on what happens here...
From what I've read of the BPD thread, these kinds of things seem to play themselves out in very similar ways. This will make me think twice about getting involved (and staying involved with) girls with issues. I messed up by not getting out of this sooner.
Of course this girl is trying to push all of my buttons and involve me again in her life. So the rule is no contact, even when she resorts to shyt like that? I guess I'll learn who my real friends are depending on what happens here...
From what I've read of the BPD thread, these kinds of things seem to play themselves out in very similar ways. This will make me think twice about getting involved (and staying involved with) girls with issues. I messed up by not getting out of this sooner.
Kailex
Master Don Juan
Any reaction you demonstrate to her, is a favorable reaction FOR her.
The best way to react, is to not react at all.
Like you said, you'll find out who you're real friends are.
She WILL try to push more buttons.
The best way to react, is to not react at all.
Like you said, you'll find out who you're real friends are.
She WILL try to push more buttons.
So, I met up with a previous girl I knew last night at a bonfire party. Extremely high IL on her part. Ended up taking her back to my house and messing around (she definitely had the Anti-Slut Defense going through). She's 28 too and I got the feeling she's definitely trying to push this thing in the way of a relationship. Definitely not ready for that anytime soon, but it's good to have a girl with that IL around to see once a week or so.
Beyond that, I have a definite reasons to believe one of my good friends has moved in on my ex and is hiding it from me. His and her comments in passing were way off, he's hiding things on his facebook status, mysteriously absent at nights lately when he'd come out, etc. What really gets my blood going about this is not the actual fact of that (I broke up with her for a reason), but the fact that it could be going on and I wouldn't know, and would be continuing to hang out with him quite a bit.
How do you guys react to these situations? I don't want to let the negative emotions get to me with this and turn me into something I don't want to become, but at the same time I HATE being taken for a sucker. If he's doing this, then I'd want him out of my life along with her. Possibly the truth may come out sooner or later, but if they're sneaky about it, that may never end up happening.
Beyond that, I have a definite reasons to believe one of my good friends has moved in on my ex and is hiding it from me. His and her comments in passing were way off, he's hiding things on his facebook status, mysteriously absent at nights lately when he'd come out, etc. What really gets my blood going about this is not the actual fact of that (I broke up with her for a reason), but the fact that it could be going on and I wouldn't know, and would be continuing to hang out with him quite a bit.
How do you guys react to these situations? I don't want to let the negative emotions get to me with this and turn me into something I don't want to become, but at the same time I HATE being taken for a sucker. If he's doing this, then I'd want him out of my life along with her. Possibly the truth may come out sooner or later, but if they're sneaky about it, that may never end up happening.
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Bluntmaster
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rbd said:
HAHAHA she is f/cking your best friend. She did it to get to you and it worked. He couldn't resist her throwing the p/ssy at him.
He should have told you though before he did it. Even if you wouldn't have approved. He's a punk for that.
Bluntmaster said:
No doubt it got to me. Ex of two years, a week or two after we last had sex (bytch kept coming back around and I was WEAK), and if this is true, this dude just pops right in and goes for it? If that is indeed the case, that's fvcked up.
Bluntmaster
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rbd said:
He's a b!tch for doing it behind your back. I would get rid of him next.
PokerInTheRear
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Sometimes the best revenge is letting him have her.rbd said:
sodbuster
Master Don Juan
Since you tossed her, I see no real problem with it...other than his not asking. Hell, I'd give my ex wife to whoever wants her.The BIGGER problem is WHY you care? Still have feelings for her?He'll be SORRRRRRRY[he wasn't listening when you talked about her?]
“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”
You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.
I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.
Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.
These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.
jophil28
Master Don Juan
So let me get this straight. You said above that you are mad with yourself for being WEAK because you got hoovered into the vagina game, and now you are mad with him because he is just as weak....rbd said:
Hmm, there is a certain consistency in your thinking, I suppose.
However, she has you all burned, but if you say any words of anger to either him or her, you are toast.
THis is one of those dramas that women excell in creating.
You have no real choice but to suck it up, drop him out of your life and never bother with her ever again.