"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Ex-GF swearing off sex

Pakwah

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Been broken up with my ex for a month or so. I wanted to get one more romp with her afterwards, sort of let the frustration out.
She tells me that she has sworn off sex now and will not have it again till she is married.
She was with over 10 guys, she is 22, so i dunno if she finally wants to not think of herself as a 'slut' or not. But its a double edge over here cuz it makes me want to try harder to get her into the sack and bust that bubble.
I am not the only person she has told this too but i don't understand how one minute you don't want sex, next minute your married and you do. Hell with the way divorces are now, being married don't mean **** when it comes to sleeping with one person for the rest of your life.
It seemed to me their was that sexual tension with us, arguing and touching and grabbing each other, so i figured it was just a matter of time. Well the closest thing i got...well closest thing she got was an hour with my tongue....after that she left me hanging, and not literally as i would have liked.
WTF?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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DJinTraining06

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Pakwah said:
Been broken up with my ex for a month or so. I wanted to get one more romp with her afterwards, sort of let the frustration out.
She tells me that she has sworn off sex now and will not have it again till she is married.
She was with over 10 guys, she is 22, so i dunno if she finally wants to not think of herself as a 'slut' or not. But its a double edge over here cuz it makes me want to try harder to get her into the sack and bust that bubble.
I am not the only person she has told this too but i don't understand how one minute you don't want sex, next minute your married and you do. Hell with the way divorces are now, being married don't mean **** when it comes to sleeping with one person for the rest of your life.
It seemed to me their was that sexual tension with us, arguing and touching and grabbing each other, so i figured it was just a matter of time. Well the closest thing i got...well closest thing she got was an hour with my tongue....after that she left me hanging, and not literally as i would have liked.
WTF?
My ex gf told me that too. I highly doubt it. I'm sure she's already done it. She was a virgin tho so i dunno ur girl may be a diff story.
 

mrRuckus

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Pakwah said:
Been broken up with my ex for a month or so. I wanted to get one more romp with her afterwards, sort of let the frustration out.
WTF?
WTF indeed.
 

resilient

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If I were you, I'd start fresh with some new #closes. Ex drama is easy to forget and highly beneficial when you're out meeting new faces.
 

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don't hang around waiting for sex as if it's a gift to you
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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