Split up in Jan. because of me not wanting to get married again,not meeting her needs,etc.She wants to come over,pick up a few things she left here,also asked to be fb freinds.Im trying to move on from her,not sure if i want to see her name frequently,etc. What do you guys think? Thanks.
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
EX gf of 8 yrs wants to be Facebook friend.
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"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
scrouds
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who broke up with whom
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I would definitely NOT FB friend her at all. Sorry, but I see that as a chump move. At the very least if you have recently split up after 8 loooong years, I would simply avoid much contact at all.
Think about who is going to benefit from this new ex 'friendship.' If you feel needy and pissed that you broke up it'll be you that benefits. What are her motives for wanting to be chums??
Think about who is going to benefit from this new ex 'friendship.' If you feel needy and pissed that you broke up it'll be you that benefits. What are her motives for wanting to be chums??
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If she was your ex 8 years ago, then sure. But recently? Forget it.XR 600 said:
If she wants her 5hit back, throw it in a box and drop it on her doorstep. Failing that, mail it to her in a parcel. It might cost a bit of cash, but you can't put a price on a successful recovery.
plate's_empty
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Yeah, this ^^^^^. Don't try to set something up with her to come pick it up. She'll agree to a time but then realize after she picks up her sh1t there will be nothing left connecting you too so she'll flake. Then of course, she has a reason to contact you again and talk about another time to meet and what's new with you and blah blah. Drop her sh1t off on her doorstep, send her a text saying you did so... and then peace out. Go ghost. Best way.Desdinova said:
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.