Split up in Jan. because of me not wanting to get married again,not meeting her needs,etc.She wants to come over,pick up a few things she left here,also asked to be fb freinds.Im trying to move on from her,not sure if i want to see her name frequently,etc. What do you guys think? Thanks.
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
EX gf of 8 yrs wants to be Facebook friend.
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"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
scrouds
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who broke up with whom
HeadLightsOn
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I would definitely NOT FB friend her at all. Sorry, but I see that as a chump move. At the very least if you have recently split up after 8 loooong years, I would simply avoid much contact at all.
Think about who is going to benefit from this new ex 'friendship.' If you feel needy and pissed that you broke up it'll be you that benefits. What are her motives for wanting to be chums??
Think about who is going to benefit from this new ex 'friendship.' If you feel needy and pissed that you broke up it'll be you that benefits. What are her motives for wanting to be chums??
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If she was your ex 8 years ago, then sure. But recently? Forget it.XR 600 said:
If she wants her 5hit back, throw it in a box and drop it on her doorstep. Failing that, mail it to her in a parcel. It might cost a bit of cash, but you can't put a price on a successful recovery.
plate's_empty
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Yeah, this ^^^^^. Don't try to set something up with her to come pick it up. She'll agree to a time but then realize after she picks up her sh1t there will be nothing left connecting you too so she'll flake. Then of course, she has a reason to contact you again and talk about another time to meet and what's new with you and blah blah. Drop her sh1t off on her doorstep, send her a text saying you did so... and then peace out. Go ghost. Best way.Desdinova said:
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.