Split up in Jan. because of me not wanting to get married again,not meeting her needs,etc.She wants to come over,pick up a few things she left here,also asked to be fb freinds.Im trying to move on from her,not sure if i want to see her name frequently,etc. What do you guys think? Thanks.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
EX gf of 8 yrs wants to be Facebook friend.
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"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
scrouds
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who broke up with whom
HeadLightsOn
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I would definitely NOT FB friend her at all. Sorry, but I see that as a chump move. At the very least if you have recently split up after 8 loooong years, I would simply avoid much contact at all.
Think about who is going to benefit from this new ex 'friendship.' If you feel needy and pissed that you broke up it'll be you that benefits. What are her motives for wanting to be chums??
Think about who is going to benefit from this new ex 'friendship.' If you feel needy and pissed that you broke up it'll be you that benefits. What are her motives for wanting to be chums??
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If she was your ex 8 years ago, then sure. But recently? Forget it.XR 600 said:
If she wants her 5hit back, throw it in a box and drop it on her doorstep. Failing that, mail it to her in a parcel. It might cost a bit of cash, but you can't put a price on a successful recovery.
plate's_empty
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Yeah, this ^^^^^. Don't try to set something up with her to come pick it up. She'll agree to a time but then realize after she picks up her sh1t there will be nothing left connecting you too so she'll flake. Then of course, she has a reason to contact you again and talk about another time to meet and what's new with you and blah blah. Drop her sh1t off on her doorstep, send her a text saying you did so... and then peace out. Go ghost. Best way.Desdinova said:
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.