"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

Read more...

Ex-GF coming to visit?

Double C

Don Juan
Joined
Dec 26, 2006
Messages
14
Reaction score
0
Location
Chestnut Hill, MA
We were going out for almost a year and a half, and she started getting disrespectful to me in the end so we ended up breaking up. We didn't talk for a while, and we both had our "fun" being single again, although she went a little further than I did in terms of hooking up. After about 2 months, we ended up hanging out again at a party, and we got drunk and hooked up. We hung out once or twice more before we both went to college.

When she got there, she quickly turned into the "party girl" and got drunk a lot and hooked up with a lot of guys (we have mutual friends at her college is how I know). It didn't really bother me that much because we were both single and I was getting with girls as well.

As this year of college progressed, we started talking less and less, but we hung out over Xmas break and hooked up once more (mistake, I know). However, now we have almost completely stopped talking and I am for all intents and purposes over her.

Turns out, her sister goes to the same college as me. I got a text from my ex last week saying that "she was coming to visit over her spring break and that she better see me" (in a joking tone), to which I responded (the next day) with "I know you're coming" and that was the extent of our conversation.

Now, when she gets here I know she is going to call me and want to hang out. I'm wondering what I should do. I'm tempted to just ignore her phone calls because I'm not really interested in her anymore, even though she could just show up at my dorm room. On the other hand, we could meet for lunch or something and I could see what she wants from me. I have zero intent on getting back into any sort of relationship, but if she just wanted to hook up I wouldn't be completely against it. Anyone have any advice?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

Read more...

Scorched

Senior Don Juan
Joined
Jan 12, 2006
Messages
371
Reaction score
7
Age
42
Location
TN
Have her ask you out... go out... have a drink... losen her up... see if she'll come onto you. :)
 
Top