"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Ex-GF coming to visit?

Double C

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We were going out for almost a year and a half, and she started getting disrespectful to me in the end so we ended up breaking up. We didn't talk for a while, and we both had our "fun" being single again, although she went a little further than I did in terms of hooking up. After about 2 months, we ended up hanging out again at a party, and we got drunk and hooked up. We hung out once or twice more before we both went to college.

When she got there, she quickly turned into the "party girl" and got drunk a lot and hooked up with a lot of guys (we have mutual friends at her college is how I know). It didn't really bother me that much because we were both single and I was getting with girls as well.

As this year of college progressed, we started talking less and less, but we hung out over Xmas break and hooked up once more (mistake, I know). However, now we have almost completely stopped talking and I am for all intents and purposes over her.

Turns out, her sister goes to the same college as me. I got a text from my ex last week saying that "she was coming to visit over her spring break and that she better see me" (in a joking tone), to which I responded (the next day) with "I know you're coming" and that was the extent of our conversation.

Now, when she gets here I know she is going to call me and want to hang out. I'm wondering what I should do. I'm tempted to just ignore her phone calls because I'm not really interested in her anymore, even though she could just show up at my dorm room. On the other hand, we could meet for lunch or something and I could see what she wants from me. I have zero intent on getting back into any sort of relationship, but if she just wanted to hook up I wouldn't be completely against it. Anyone have any advice?
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Scorched

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Have her ask you out... go out... have a drink... losen her up... see if she'll come onto you. :)
 
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