"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Ex-GF coming to visit?

Double C

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We were going out for almost a year and a half, and she started getting disrespectful to me in the end so we ended up breaking up. We didn't talk for a while, and we both had our "fun" being single again, although she went a little further than I did in terms of hooking up. After about 2 months, we ended up hanging out again at a party, and we got drunk and hooked up. We hung out once or twice more before we both went to college.

When she got there, she quickly turned into the "party girl" and got drunk a lot and hooked up with a lot of guys (we have mutual friends at her college is how I know). It didn't really bother me that much because we were both single and I was getting with girls as well.

As this year of college progressed, we started talking less and less, but we hung out over Xmas break and hooked up once more (mistake, I know). However, now we have almost completely stopped talking and I am for all intents and purposes over her.

Turns out, her sister goes to the same college as me. I got a text from my ex last week saying that "she was coming to visit over her spring break and that she better see me" (in a joking tone), to which I responded (the next day) with "I know you're coming" and that was the extent of our conversation.

Now, when she gets here I know she is going to call me and want to hang out. I'm wondering what I should do. I'm tempted to just ignore her phone calls because I'm not really interested in her anymore, even though she could just show up at my dorm room. On the other hand, we could meet for lunch or something and I could see what she wants from me. I have zero intent on getting back into any sort of relationship, but if she just wanted to hook up I wouldn't be completely against it. Anyone have any advice?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Scorched

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Have her ask you out... go out... have a drink... losen her up... see if she'll come onto you. :)
 
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