"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Ex-GF coming to visit?

Double C

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We were going out for almost a year and a half, and she started getting disrespectful to me in the end so we ended up breaking up. We didn't talk for a while, and we both had our "fun" being single again, although she went a little further than I did in terms of hooking up. After about 2 months, we ended up hanging out again at a party, and we got drunk and hooked up. We hung out once or twice more before we both went to college.

When she got there, she quickly turned into the "party girl" and got drunk a lot and hooked up with a lot of guys (we have mutual friends at her college is how I know). It didn't really bother me that much because we were both single and I was getting with girls as well.

As this year of college progressed, we started talking less and less, but we hung out over Xmas break and hooked up once more (mistake, I know). However, now we have almost completely stopped talking and I am for all intents and purposes over her.

Turns out, her sister goes to the same college as me. I got a text from my ex last week saying that "she was coming to visit over her spring break and that she better see me" (in a joking tone), to which I responded (the next day) with "I know you're coming" and that was the extent of our conversation.

Now, when she gets here I know she is going to call me and want to hang out. I'm wondering what I should do. I'm tempted to just ignore her phone calls because I'm not really interested in her anymore, even though she could just show up at my dorm room. On the other hand, we could meet for lunch or something and I could see what she wants from me. I have zero intent on getting back into any sort of relationship, but if she just wanted to hook up I wouldn't be completely against it. Anyone have any advice?
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Scorched

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Have her ask you out... go out... have a drink... losen her up... see if she'll come onto you. :)
 
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