Hello Friend,

If this is your first visit to SoSuave, I would advise you to START HERE.

It will be the most efficient use of your time.

And you will learn everything you need to know to become a huge success with women.

Thank you for visiting and have a great day!

Ex gf appears a year later after dumping me and now says she never stopped loving me

Lover_boy

Don Juan
Joined
Oct 24, 2021
Messages
104
Reaction score
44
Age
32
Hello everyone, so I will try to keep my story as short and to the point.

Basically I was dating this chick last year in an LDR and after 6 months she dumped me for her ex. She moved in with him and now after a year she’s hitting me up and telling me that she’s not happy, she misses me, and never stoped thinking about me. She says she got back with him because he offered her a better future.

Fast forward to now shes saying that she wants to start a new life with me and live happily with someone that she loves blah blah. But that she doesnt know when that will happen. Shes saying She can’t just leave now and wants to end things right with her current partner and then decide when she can come.

I honestly wouldn’t mind having her over for a bit to just fvck but I would not want to get back with that woman. To me it sounds that she is just monkey branching to another guy and setting Things right with me before she leaves her current relationship. She also mentioned that she might be flying to Florida in September to help a friend move and that we can see each other but only for dinner and nothing sexually because she doesn’t want to cheat on her relationship even though she doesn’t love him. I told her that if she just wants to see me for some dinner then I don’t want to see her and hang out as just friends.

She basically wants me to just be a patient little puppy and wait for her to finish her relationship so that I can then get her treat. I feel like telling her to just stay with her new life and her bf and fvck off but I also wouldn’t mind smashing again and having her over. Thoughts?
 

IKO69

Master Don Juan
Joined
Nov 23, 2005
Messages
1,222
Reaction score
1,121
Age
41
Location
Miami, FL
It's a story as old as time. Likely things didn't pan out the way she hoped after you.

You should probably ignore her, but if you choose to interact with her you can mention why the change all of sudden and reaching out to you, that you thought it was over. If you really want to mess with her, you can even tell her how great the break was for you, that you are doing so much better now. That really f*cks with them because some women are so narcissistic they think life revolves them and a guy will just completely fall apart without their presence. These women get riled up when they see the guy succeeding.
 

Dr.Suave

Moderator
Joined
Mar 6, 2017
Messages
3,596
Reaction score
3,973
Bang her but never give her exclisivity again. Rollo said One chance per woman per lifetime.
 
Last edited:

Dr.Suave

Moderator
Joined
Mar 6, 2017
Messages
3,596
Reaction score
3,973

Lover_boy

Don Juan
Joined
Oct 24, 2021
Messages
104
Reaction score
44
Age
32
I am fully down with just banging but she tries to play with me the emotional and jealous card. For example, on Friday night she texts me and I don’t respond righ away. She then sends two additional messages back to back, saying like “it looks like you must be very busy” or saying things like “i know you must have someone in your life right now and perhaps I’m not as important to you anymore”.
 

Visionist

Master Don Juan
Joined
Mar 27, 2016
Messages
864
Reaction score
912
Age
35
Block her.
 

BackInTheGame78

Moderator
Joined
Sep 10, 2014
Messages
12,989
Reaction score
13,894
People oftentimes shave regrets when they realize the grass isn't always greener.

Do what you want but remember, she replaced you once, she will likely do it again at some point.

Something about you isn't what she really wants, she is settling for you.
 
Last edited:

FlexpertHamilton

Master Don Juan
Joined
Jun 10, 2020
Messages
2,246
Reaction score
2,707
Location
US
Women like her make me so sick I wouldn't even want to fvck them.

Men need to stop excusing morally repugnant behaviors from women like her just to get laid. These women will never learn otherwise.
 
Last edited:

Grounded eagle

Master Don Juan
Joined
Nov 10, 2020
Messages
564
Reaction score
639
Age
25
Hello everyone, so I will try to keep my story as short and to the point.

Basically I was dating this chick last year in an LDR and after 6 months she dumped me for her ex. She moved in with him and now after a year she’s hitting me up and telling me that she’s not happy, she misses me, and never stoped thinking about me. She says she got back with him because he offered her a better future.

Fast forward to now shes saying that she wants to start a new life with me and live happily with someone that she loves blah blah. But that she doesnt know when that will happen. Shes saying She can’t just leave now and wants to end things right with her current partner and then decide when she can come.

I honestly wouldn’t mind having her over for a bit to just fvck but I would not want to get back with that woman. To me it sounds that she is just monkey branching to another guy and setting Things right with me before she leaves her current relationship. She also mentioned that she might be flying to Florida in September to help a friend move and that we can see each other but only for dinner and nothing sexually because she doesn’t want to cheat on her relationship even though she doesn’t love him. I told her that if she just wants to see me for some dinner then I don’t want to see her and hang out as just friends.

She basically wants me to just be a patient little puppy and wait for her to finish her relationship so that I can then get her treat. I feel like telling her to just stay with her new life and her bf and fvck off but I also wouldn’t mind smashing again and having her over. Thoughts?
Lots of red flags here.Let’s see,it was a long distance relationship,lasted only six months and the guy she left you for was her ex,which means that for a possibly significant amount of time during your relationship she had him on her mind.

This girl is playing games.What they are doesn’t matter considering the track record you have with her.If you can fvck her a few times without catching feelings and with minimal investment then go for it.Short of that,tell her to go kick rocks.
 

Grounded eagle

Master Don Juan
Joined
Nov 10, 2020
Messages
564
Reaction score
639
Age
25
She then sends two additional messages back to back, saying like “it looks like you must be very busy” or saying things like “i know you must have someone in your life right now and perhaps I’m not as important to you anymore”.
You should have responded to this with,”Yeah.”
 

firstbornunicorn

Master Don Juan
Joined
Oct 2, 2020
Messages
810
Reaction score
723
Age
31
I am fully down with just banging but she tries to play with me the emotional and jealous card. For example, on Friday night she texts me and I don’t respond righ away. She then sends two additional messages back to back, saying like “it looks like you must be very busy” or saying things like “i know you must have someone in your life right now and perhaps I’m not as important to you anymore”.
Before you mentioned this I was leaning towards giving her a chance, but this is a little too manipulative. Take it slow, don't rush back into it, don't get her pregnant.
 

BackInTheGame78

Moderator
Joined
Sep 10, 2014
Messages
12,989
Reaction score
13,894
Female chiming in and a bit surprised you bothered to even create a thread about her. She's taking up way WAY too much mental space in your brain.

Avoid women like her, they're toxic, SHE is toxic.

Take yourself out of the situation and read what's quoted above as if your brother or good friend were posting it. What would you say and advise?

Get rid! Her words and behavior may be the most manipulative and toxic I've seen.
Again, I am a woman saying this.
I am very familiar with manipulative and toxic women like her. They're users and takers.

No disrespect intended but even just creating this thread which means your considering going back there is just the type of simp behavior that causes women to behave like this.

Stop feeding the monster. Block her. Go no contact.

If you must say something simply say you're not interested and wish her well, bye.

Nothing of value will ever become of this.

She does not want you. She wants whatever she thinks you can provide just like with her ex in the first quote above.

I'm sorry mate, all the best.
Like I've always said...once a woman shows you aren't actually what she wants, if she gets back with you, it will only be until she finds someone else again.
 

BackInTheGame78

Moderator
Joined
Sep 10, 2014
Messages
12,989
Reaction score
13,894
True but let's be fair. While YES there are plenty of women who behave this way, even myself many moons ago when I was an entitled brat :oops: , some of us have grown up and learned that the whole world doesn't revolve around us and that life is not a Disney fairytale.

OP's girl hasn't learned that yet and she never will as long as there are men ready and willing to take her back and/or allow her to shyt all over them, i.e. simp.
But how is a man to know whether she has or not? It's not like you'd be able to find the truth out until you got back with her and by then if it was all a lie it would be too late.
 

Lover_boy

Don Juan
Joined
Oct 24, 2021
Messages
104
Reaction score
44
Age
32
I agree with @catsmeow 100%, I've known this girl for a while and her behaviors have always been the same. I'm not gonna lie, she is taking up a lot of mental space but I would not take her back. If she wants to come visit me for s3x then fine, but nothing else. The issue is that she keeps trying to manipulate me as how she used to in the past. (Hence what I think she's looking for in me which is a stroke of emotional ego). But since I am not showing her the attention she craves via text or call then she uses toxic manipulation and makes herself appear as the victim.
 

Lover_boy

Don Juan
Joined
Oct 24, 2021
Messages
104
Reaction score
44
Age
32
But how is a man to know whether she has or not? It's not like you'd be able to find the truth out until you got back with her and by then if it was all a lie it would be too late.
Her actions are still the same
 

Pedrito0906

Banned
Joined
Nov 13, 2021
Messages
828
Reaction score
726
Age
34
Like Rian Stone said in his book, "She's back because she wants to know if she could have you at any time"

You say you wouldn't mind having her as plate, but that's just a lie to yourself, you wanna have her because you remembered the great things, if you had other options you wouldn't be thinking about that. Never root through the garage was the trash have been taking to the curve... - Rollo

I've been guilty of that too, and I have lied to myself too.
 
Top