"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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so anyways me and her split up about 6 months ago after dating for 2.5 years... she now has a new BF but still got pissed off over some pictures of me and other girls on facebook....

what the ****? is it normal for girls to act this way??? i mean me and her left things on good terms, and still chill from time to time... but she moved on.. why does she expect me not to?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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sav said:
so anyways me and her split up about 6 months ago after dating for 2.5 years... she now has a new BF but still got pissed off over some pictures of me and other girls on facebook....

what the ****? is it normal for girls to act this way??? i mean me and her left things on good terms, and still chill from time to time... but she moved on.. why does she expect me not to?
And you are concerned about this because?????
 

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Francisco d'Anconia said:
And you are concerned about this because?????
because i try to understand women and their behavior the best i can... other then that, im not really concerned ;)
 

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You let her think she has a leash on you. She still does and to watch you move on puts a kink in that leash and it bugs the fvck out of her.

Don't give your power away. Let this be a lesson brother.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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This is standard women behaviour. Although she's dumped you and moved on, women always want to keep their options open in case their current mans turns AFC, she wants to jump to the next branch.

Women aren't good at bein alone and like to hedge their bets. Your best bet is to ignore her and not feed the fire, tell her she's lost out, too bad, suck it up.
 

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sav said:
because i try to understand women and their behavior the best i can... other then that, im not really concerned ;)
I'd focus on understanding the ones who choose not to carry along the unresolved baggage of prior relationships. I think those are the ones you'd rather pursue. ;)
 

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my ex is the same way, once we broke up, she goes back and forth between friend and psycho. females are more emotional, so whatever

on that note, if you're gonna be friends with your ex, expect to be in the twilight zone from time to time
 

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Yeah you interrupt her control of her universe she had you positioned just where she wanted you and how she wanted you placed and then she had to totally reorganize her skillful deceptions.
 

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KarmaSutra said:
You let her think she has a leash on you. She still does and to watch you move on puts a kink in that leash and it bugs the fvck out of her.

Don't give your power away. Let this be a lesson brother.
amen , she is not your girlfriend anymore, don't let her have the power of being a girlfriend anymore.
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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Francisco d'Anconia said:
I'd focus on understanding the ones who choose not to carry along the unresolved baggage of prior relationships. I think those are the ones you'd rather pursue. ;)
amen ! listen to francisco .
 

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She's not pissed, she's frustrated. So don't confuse the two. Infact, don't even listen to it she's now an AFC. AFB?
 

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who cares if she is pissed or if she is frustrated?
let her stew in it, she moved on, and you need to move on.
 
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