"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Ex-g/f Wants Me Again

ERIC

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OK, here's the situation. My ex-g/f and I just started talking again after 3 years. We saw each other about 3 times since then and everything went pretty well (no awkward pauses, easy conversation, body language, etc.) So she tells me the last time I saw her that she still liked me and that she looks forward to seeing me again, she gave me a hug goodbye and when I let go she kept hugging and gave me a nice kiss smack on the lips. So I let a few days go back and I texted her about something stupid and she responded like the next morning on her way to school I guess. Here's where I need some advice. If I throw a text in asking her if she'd like to do something and she doesn't respond till hours later or the next morning, is it just that she just doesn't respond fast (her cousin is a good friend of mine and says she does the same thing to everyone in her family) or is she just f***in with my head? Let me know what you DJ'S think and how I should play this one out. Thanks!
- Eric
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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nan3109

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she's ****ing with you, women are all trash and trust me i know!
 

Slickster

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If I throw a text in asking her if she'd like to do something and she doesn't respond till hours later or the next morning, is it just that she just doesn't respond fast (her cousin is a good friend of mine and says she does the same thing to everyone in her family) or is she just f***in with my head? Let me know what you DJ'S think and how I should play this one out. Thanks!
Me thinks that you are acting like a silly little school girl worrying about such things.

She's your ex man. If she wants you back then let her chase you. Make her work for it.

Don't let chicks mess with your head.
 

Francisco d'Anconia

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If you decide to have another go at it, just make sure that you address the things that didn't work out the first time before you get too involved. History has a way of repeating itself and if it sucked the first time, why make the same mistakes again hoping for a different outcome?
 

jakeyboy

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she gets you back, then she.... tramples over you all over again.

be careful if you do want to pursue it again. i know that i love my ex very much, but i don't think i want her back after what she's done to me.

you know, a relationship broke up because of certain reasons, and just be forewarned that these issues may resurface and you'd have to deal with them all over again.

however, all the best mate, for whichever course you choose to pursue. i'm not one to judge, cos i know how much bonding some of us have with exes. :D
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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DJStudent

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Originally posted by Francisco d'Anconia
If you decide to have another go at it, just make sure that you address the things that didn't work out the first time before you get too involved. History has a way of repeating itself and if it sucked the first time, why make the same mistakes again hoping for a different outcome?
Yeah be sure to addres this first cause you guys didn't work out for some reason. Also a good rule to live by is to not get with your ex again. It's fine being friendly because you guys connected on some level for a reason so why not enjoy that special connection, but trust me. There will be times when things will get weird and you'll be wondering why you ever got back with her again. There are plenty of girls out there. Be adventurous and find new girls, don't be happy with what you already know.
 

NewMan

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Stop dwelling over it.

You want to get back with her I know.

That - "I miss you" sentence is all it took.....

You got to take that with a pinch of salt.
 
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