"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Ex-g/f Wants Me Again

ERIC

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OK, here's the situation. My ex-g/f and I just started talking again after 3 years. We saw each other about 3 times since then and everything went pretty well (no awkward pauses, easy conversation, body language, etc.) So she tells me the last time I saw her that she still liked me and that she looks forward to seeing me again, she gave me a hug goodbye and when I let go she kept hugging and gave me a nice kiss smack on the lips. So I let a few days go back and I texted her about something stupid and she responded like the next morning on her way to school I guess. Here's where I need some advice. If I throw a text in asking her if she'd like to do something and she doesn't respond till hours later or the next morning, is it just that she just doesn't respond fast (her cousin is a good friend of mine and says she does the same thing to everyone in her family) or is she just f***in with my head? Let me know what you DJ'S think and how I should play this one out. Thanks!
- Eric
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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nan3109

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she's ****ing with you, women are all trash and trust me i know!
 

Slickster

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If I throw a text in asking her if she'd like to do something and she doesn't respond till hours later or the next morning, is it just that she just doesn't respond fast (her cousin is a good friend of mine and says she does the same thing to everyone in her family) or is she just f***in with my head? Let me know what you DJ'S think and how I should play this one out. Thanks!
Me thinks that you are acting like a silly little school girl worrying about such things.

She's your ex man. If she wants you back then let her chase you. Make her work for it.

Don't let chicks mess with your head.
 

Francisco d'Anconia

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If you decide to have another go at it, just make sure that you address the things that didn't work out the first time before you get too involved. History has a way of repeating itself and if it sucked the first time, why make the same mistakes again hoping for a different outcome?
 

jakeyboy

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she gets you back, then she.... tramples over you all over again.

be careful if you do want to pursue it again. i know that i love my ex very much, but i don't think i want her back after what she's done to me.

you know, a relationship broke up because of certain reasons, and just be forewarned that these issues may resurface and you'd have to deal with them all over again.

however, all the best mate, for whichever course you choose to pursue. i'm not one to judge, cos i know how much bonding some of us have with exes. :D
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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DJStudent

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Originally posted by Francisco d'Anconia
If you decide to have another go at it, just make sure that you address the things that didn't work out the first time before you get too involved. History has a way of repeating itself and if it sucked the first time, why make the same mistakes again hoping for a different outcome?
Yeah be sure to addres this first cause you guys didn't work out for some reason. Also a good rule to live by is to not get with your ex again. It's fine being friendly because you guys connected on some level for a reason so why not enjoy that special connection, but trust me. There will be times when things will get weird and you'll be wondering why you ever got back with her again. There are plenty of girls out there. Be adventurous and find new girls, don't be happy with what you already know.
 

NewMan

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Stop dwelling over it.

You want to get back with her I know.

That - "I miss you" sentence is all it took.....

You got to take that with a pinch of salt.
 
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