"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Genuinely why does this happen? She was begging to try again and saying it could work and our story is t over yet
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Genuinely why does this happen? She was begging to try again and saying it could work and our story is t over yet

Note the words sung between 0:24-0:27, then repeated several times over the next 3 minutes. This is true in ALL aspects of life, dating and mating included
 

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There are obviously endless factors and reasons why this would happen. Expecting someone else to be precise as to why, without knowing the context, is moronic.
 

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Note the words sung between 0:24-0:27, then repeated several times over the next 3 minutes. This is true in ALL aspects of life, dating and mating included
Oh don't it seem to go that you don't know what you've got till it's gone

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To be fair, Vanessa Carlton would walk a thousand miles, so maybe OP's girl is just in a certain mood.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

Read more...

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Genuinely why does this happen?
Doesnt matter. Never get back together with an ex, its one of Rollo´s Iron rules.

Iron Rule of Tomassi #7
It is always time and effort better spent developing new, fresh, prospective women than it will ever be in attempting to reconstruct a failed relationship. Never root through the trash once the garbage has been dragged to the curb. You get messy, your neighbors see you do it, and what you thought was worth digging for is never as valuable as you thought it was.


 
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Doesnt matter. Never get back otgether with an ex, its one of Rollo´s Iron rules.

Iron Rule of Tomassi #7
It is always time and effort better spent developing new, fresh, prospective women than it will ever be in attempting to reconstruct a failed relationship. Never root through the trash once the garbage has been dragged to the curb. You get messy, your neighbors see you do it, and what you thought was worth digging for is never as valuable as you thought it was.

The only exception for me with this would be if there were circumstances outside of anyone's control that caused issues that meant moving forward was no longer possible (ie, caring for a loved one, etc).

If that situation materially changed and there were no blockers then I think there is no reason why you wouldn't entertain that
 

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Doesnt matter. Never get back otgether with an ex, its one of Rollo´s Iron rules.

Iron Rule of Tomassi #7
It is always time and effort better spent developing new, fresh, prospective women than it will ever be in attempting to reconstruct a failed relationship. Never root through the trash once the garbage has been dragged to the curb. You get messy, your neighbors see you do it, and what you thought was worth digging for is never as valuable as you thought it was.

Ehh depends on the context.
 
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