"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Ex BPD just invited me to her work...

dk1990S111

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After probably 6 months of no contact with my ex (we were together for 4 years) she just texted me to invite me to the dealership she works at because one of the hosts from a show I watch will be there apparently.

Havent responded yet, was thinking:

A. Who is this?

B. Go and show her that I have been hitting the gym (been getting a lot of compliments lately so she will definitely notice) and dressing a lot better.

C. Just say "thanks Ill see if I can make it" and leave it at that.

Now keep in mind she owes me $500. I doubt I will ever get it back and I am not too worried about it. But something to think about, if theres a chance she will pay me back some day I would not say no to $500 lol
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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El Payaso

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She's baiting you. Ignore.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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and ignore is the best you can do

also make a mental note of not lending that much money again next time
 

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E. Co signed. Ignore whatever invite she gave you and tell her she still owes you 500$

She still owes 500$

Fųck an invite, let's talk about the 500$.

Chick who owes you 500$: Would you like to come to my work for a party?

You: You owe 500$, you know when you'll pay it back?
 

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If not seeing her ever again is going to cost you $500, then it's probably the best $500 you ever spent!
 

dk1990S111

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Cremasta said:
If not seeing her ever again is going to cost you $500, then it's probably the best $500 you ever spent!
that is the way I have been looking at it haha especially after reading a lot of the stories on here where guys loose a lot more than that to ex wives and gfs.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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She's baiting you dude seriously! No ex is gonna keep your number that long after no contact. Don't do it lol. My ex is bpd also. She disappeared on me after two year relationship and took our baby. Yet she stalks ME.
 

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dk1990S111 said:
After probably 6 months of no contact with my ex (we were together for 4 years) she just texted me to invite me to the dealership she works at because one of the hosts from a show I watch will be there apparently.

Havent responded yet, was thinking:

A. Who is this?

B. Go and show her that I have been hitting the gym (been getting a lot of compliments lately so she will definitely notice) and dressing a lot better.

C. Just say "thanks Ill see if I can make it" and leave it at that.

Now keep in mind she owes me $500. I doubt I will ever get it back and I am not too worried about it. But something to think about, if theres a chance she will pay me back some day I would not say no to $500 lol
Don't go. If she's BPD she's prolly banging the host from the show and half the dealership and wants to embarrass you on national tv.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Lostinlove said:
Don't go. If she's BPD she's prolly banging the host from the show and half the dealership and wants to embarrass you on national tv.
This is not funny, because it is stunningly accurate. BPD gets thrown around alot on this forum, but if your ex truly has borderline personality disorder, you need to stay away from her as if your life depends on it, because it does. Nothing is more insidious and cruel than someone who is an expert at destroying your mental health.
 
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