"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Ex BPD just invited me to her work...

dk1990S111

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After probably 6 months of no contact with my ex (we were together for 4 years) she just texted me to invite me to the dealership she works at because one of the hosts from a show I watch will be there apparently.

Havent responded yet, was thinking:

A. Who is this?

B. Go and show her that I have been hitting the gym (been getting a lot of compliments lately so she will definitely notice) and dressing a lot better.

C. Just say "thanks Ill see if I can make it" and leave it at that.

Now keep in mind she owes me $500. I doubt I will ever get it back and I am not too worried about it. But something to think about, if theres a chance she will pay me back some day I would not say no to $500 lol
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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El Payaso

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She's baiting you. Ignore.
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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and ignore is the best you can do

also make a mental note of not lending that much money again next time
 

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E. Co signed. Ignore whatever invite she gave you and tell her she still owes you 500$

She still owes 500$

Fųck an invite, let's talk about the 500$.

Chick who owes you 500$: Would you like to come to my work for a party?

You: You owe 500$, you know when you'll pay it back?
 

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If not seeing her ever again is going to cost you $500, then it's probably the best $500 you ever spent!
 

dk1990S111

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Cremasta said:
If not seeing her ever again is going to cost you $500, then it's probably the best $500 you ever spent!
that is the way I have been looking at it haha especially after reading a lot of the stories on here where guys loose a lot more than that to ex wives and gfs.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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She's baiting you dude seriously! No ex is gonna keep your number that long after no contact. Don't do it lol. My ex is bpd also. She disappeared on me after two year relationship and took our baby. Yet she stalks ME.
 

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dk1990S111 said:
After probably 6 months of no contact with my ex (we were together for 4 years) she just texted me to invite me to the dealership she works at because one of the hosts from a show I watch will be there apparently.

Havent responded yet, was thinking:

A. Who is this?

B. Go and show her that I have been hitting the gym (been getting a lot of compliments lately so she will definitely notice) and dressing a lot better.

C. Just say "thanks Ill see if I can make it" and leave it at that.

Now keep in mind she owes me $500. I doubt I will ever get it back and I am not too worried about it. But something to think about, if theres a chance she will pay me back some day I would not say no to $500 lol
Don't go. If she's BPD she's prolly banging the host from the show and half the dealership and wants to embarrass you on national tv.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Lostinlove said:
Don't go. If she's BPD she's prolly banging the host from the show and half the dealership and wants to embarrass you on national tv.
This is not funny, because it is stunningly accurate. BPD gets thrown around alot on this forum, but if your ex truly has borderline personality disorder, you need to stay away from her as if your life depends on it, because it does. Nothing is more insidious and cruel than someone who is an expert at destroying your mental health.
 
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