GrowingPains
Master Don Juan
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Or should I say ex best friend.
I broke up with my first ever girlfriend, with whom I had a relationship for 4 years, earlier this year. Obviously she meant a lot to me though given our history.
I knew that one off my high school friends was going to the same program as her for med school. And in dealing with the breakup, I developed the idea that maybe they'd get together. At the time, that was irrational because they hadn't interacted since high school, I had no reason to think that. I knew that. But I let them both know of my fear that would happen. They both assured me that was ridiculous (ha!)
Sure enough, he goes through a hard time with his work and they start studying together. Next thing I know, he's telling me he's been getting closer with her. I've known him for 7 years.
I cut ties with him unless he wanted to talk about making things right. He said that was hard to hear. Pff ... Should've thought if our friendship was worth getting with her.
I'm pissed. I was just getting better about the breakup situation. Trying to enjoy the holidays with my family before I go to school on the other side of the country.
I don't want to waste energy thinking about these two so my question is this; what kinds of things can I do to deal with this appropriately mentally but to get back to where I was as far as moving on? I'm thinking I'll get back into meditation as I've been meaning to for some time and if I find myself thinking about them then to go do something to improve myself and my well being.
What do you guys think? Any additional healing tips?
Thanks
I broke up with my first ever girlfriend, with whom I had a relationship for 4 years, earlier this year. Obviously she meant a lot to me though given our history.
I knew that one off my high school friends was going to the same program as her for med school. And in dealing with the breakup, I developed the idea that maybe they'd get together. At the time, that was irrational because they hadn't interacted since high school, I had no reason to think that. I knew that. But I let them both know of my fear that would happen. They both assured me that was ridiculous (ha!)
Sure enough, he goes through a hard time with his work and they start studying together. Next thing I know, he's telling me he's been getting closer with her. I've known him for 7 years.
I cut ties with him unless he wanted to talk about making things right. He said that was hard to hear. Pff ... Should've thought if our friendship was worth getting with her.
I'm pissed. I was just getting better about the breakup situation. Trying to enjoy the holidays with my family before I go to school on the other side of the country.
I don't want to waste energy thinking about these two so my question is this; what kinds of things can I do to deal with this appropriately mentally but to get back to where I was as far as moving on? I'm thinking I'll get back into meditation as I've been meaning to for some time and if I find myself thinking about them then to go do something to improve myself and my well being.
What do you guys think? Any additional healing tips?
Thanks