"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Hi

I have a whatsapp group with all my friends, including my ex since she's a part of that group.

Today I posted something there of something fun that happened to me today. My friends responded but she was very fast to say something completely of topic that was in fact of no interest to anyone. Ok in a sense it's of no interest to anyone what happened to me todya but anyway...

I'm not looking to get back with her, I just want to know if she posted it because she was annoyed or whatever?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Billtx49

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She read about you having a good time with your life post split and she probably wanted to show everyone in the group she had a life too. You will never really know the reason why though.
 
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ImTheDoubleGreatest!

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Take the attention away from you and onto her. It's all subconscious and she probably felt awkward like "why did I send that?" after no one really cared.

Don't overthink.
 
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I'm not looking to get back with her, I just want to know if she posted it because she was annoyed or whatever?
Throwing in that disclaimer pretty much ensures that you'd at least consider getting back with her if what she was trying to pull on whatsapp turned out to be an indicator of interest.

If you weren't looking to get back with her at all you wouldn't even be curious about this.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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You can say whatever your want, a break-up is 1 thing, remaining emotions are another.

The down size of splitting is that communication can become very weird, you (both) will interpret messages completely different than other people ... just because your mutual emotions that often turn into negatively ...
 

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Ex acting weird? Is that like a convict acting guilty? Or a ho acting slvtty? Or a Hillary supporter acting needy?

By definition, all exes are acting weird, namely they are your ex.
 

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She's an "X" that you still have a little feeling for or you wouldn't post here otherwise. Start spinning some plates and start living your life away from the past!
 

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Hi

I have a whatsapp group with all my friends, including my ex since she's a part of that group.

Today I posted something there of something fun that happened to me today. My friends responded but she was very fast to say something completely of topic that was in fact of no interest to anyone. Ok in a sense it's of no interest to anyone what happened to me todya but anyway...

I'm not looking to get back with her, I just want to know if she posted it because she was annoyed or whatever?
She is looking for attention. Just ignore her.
 
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