"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Everything going well than failed. Any tips for redemption?

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Meet this hb 7 girl last saturday. Made out with at a bar her high interest from her part. Text her on Sunday (yeah I know) this is what I said word for word.

Me: hey it's peter nice meeting someone from Florida
Hb7:haha thanks. Nice meeting a bilingual teacher :)

Tuesday

Me: hey what's up

Hb7:hello, I'm reading a book. U?
Me: setting up a guided reading lesson, what book?

Hb7:game of thrones book.
Me : I love that book seen every episode, don't tell me what happens to jofffry.

Hb7: uh oh..... I'm bad at spoiling endings. I'll do my best though. ;)
Me: well I don't know your schedule but we should do something later this week

Hb7: I'm sure I can find time in my schedule for you:)
Me: how about Eros on Thursday?

Hb7: Eros?
Me: www.google.com/Eros/384848484893938484848 (basically a google search of Eros)

Hb7: do you sing karayoke
Me: I can't give away all my secrets. Have you seen this video I bet you 1000 dollars you can't make it through without laughing. Sent will ferrel in my plums

Hb7:my phone won't play it I'll try my tablet.
Me: will Ferrell in my plums, especially at 2 mins



She hasn't responded. How to proceed?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Good thread, but should I text her about thursday? Or just put the ball in her court since she left the conversation hanging?
 
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Well, I don't know how the time duration of her not responding. Maybe she fell asleep? Maybe she's eating? Maybe her phone died? Maybe she lost her phone? Maybe she's texting someone else? Maybe she's doing home work or research? Maybe she saw the video, thought about replying, decided she would reply later and forgot about it.

In all honesty though, I'm curious, why are you texting her that video? What is the purpose of it? What are you trying to achieve by texting a girl you've never met a "funny" video? I'm not being rhetorical either. Think hard and whatever your answer is to those questions should give you some clue.
 
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Okay

Well the last text I sent was at 1045 on Tuesday, she hasn't contacted me. I admit sending of the video was dumb, but I'm going to text her today in the am, something like "so are you still free today?"
 
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nmartinez12443 said:
Well the last text I sent was at 1045 on Tuesday, she hasn't contacted me. I admit sending of the video was dumb, but I'm going to text her today in the am, something like "so are you still free today?"
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Don't do that. Listen to what the guy above me said. Wait a week then text her again. Texting so soon will make you look too available especially since she didn't respond to that. You want your value to go up not down.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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nmartinez12443 said:
Meet this hb 7 girl last saturday. Made out with at a bar her high interest from her part. Text her on Sunday (yeah I know) this is what I said word for word.

Me: hey it's peter nice meeting someone from Florida
Hb7:haha thanks. Nice meeting a bilingual teacher :)
Tuesday

Me: hey it's Peter, what's up

Hb7:hello, I'm reading a book. U?
Me: setting up a guided reading lesson, what book?

Hb7:game of thrones book.
Me : I love that book seen every episode, don't tell me what happens to jofffry.

Hb7: uh oh..... I'm bad at spoiling endings. I'll do my best though. ;)
Me: well I don't know your schedule but we should do something grab a drink later this week

Hb7: I'm sure I can find time in my schedule for you:)
Me: how about Eros on Thursday at X:00?

Hb7: Eros?
Me: ya you'll like it, it's at such and such crosstreets (NO LINK -->)www.google.com/Eros/384848484893938484848 (basically a google search of Eros)
Hb7: do you sing karayoke
Me: I can't give away all my secrets. Have you seen this video I bet you 1000 dollars you can't make it through without laughing. Sent will ferrel in my plums
Hb7:my phone won't play it I'll try my tablet.
Me: will Ferrell in my plums, especially at 2 mins


She hasn't responded. How to proceed?
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The stuff in red should not have happened, the stuff in bold should have IMO. Obviously, texting can only get you so far though.
 
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Update

Okay thanks for the advice I will learn from my mistakes.

Me: hey I was wondering were we still going to do something tonight?
Her: yes :)

Me: okay cool come to 600 south 1st at like 730
Her: I'm not sure if I told you who I nanny for. But it's a 12 year old boy with severe autism. Anyways he is very special he's asking me/insisting not to leave. He does that often. So I'm going to be here with him until 8 or so.

Me: okay cool, I'll be ready at 9

No response.......


Okay guys just wanted to give closer on this thread thanks for the tips
 
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nmartinez12443 said:
Okay thanks for the advice I will learn from my mistakes.

Me: hey I was wondering were we still going to do something tonight?
Her: yes :)

Me: okay cool come to 600 south 1st at like 730
Her: I'm not sure if I told you who I nanny for. But it's a 12 year old boy with severe autism. Anyways he is very special he's asking me/insisting not to leave. He does that often. So I'm going to be here with him until 8 or so.

Me: okay cool, I'll be ready at 9

No response......


Okay guys just wanted to give closer on this thread thanks for the tips
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We'll she never showed up or even had the decency to text me and say she was going, deleted her number and all old texts. Amazing how a girl can make out with a dude seem super interested than poof. Thanks guys will redemn myself this weekend.
 
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nmartinez12443 said:
We'll she never showed up or even had the decency to text me and say she was going, deleted her number and all old texts. Amazing how a girl can make out with a dude seem super interested than poof. Thanks guys will redemn myself this weekend.
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Pathetic. I hate flakers. At least have the decency to say you aren't coming. Well, at least, you dodged a bullet.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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