"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Everything going well than failed. Any tips for redemption?

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Meet this hb 7 girl last saturday. Made out with at a bar her high interest from her part. Text her on Sunday (yeah I know) this is what I said word for word.

Me: hey it's peter nice meeting someone from Florida
Hb7:haha thanks. Nice meeting a bilingual teacher :)

Tuesday

Me: hey what's up

Hb7:hello, I'm reading a book. U?
Me: setting up a guided reading lesson, what book?

Hb7:game of thrones book.
Me : I love that book seen every episode, don't tell me what happens to jofffry.

Hb7: uh oh..... I'm bad at spoiling endings. I'll do my best though. ;)
Me: well I don't know your schedule but we should do something later this week

Hb7: I'm sure I can find time in my schedule for you:)
Me: how about Eros on Thursday?

Hb7: Eros?
Me: www.google.com/Eros/384848484893938484848 (basically a google search of Eros)

Hb7: do you sing karayoke
Me: I can't give away all my secrets. Have you seen this video I bet you 1000 dollars you can't make it through without laughing. Sent will ferrel in my plums

Hb7:my phone won't play it I'll try my tablet.
Me: will Ferrell in my plums, especially at 2 mins



She hasn't responded. How to proceed?
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Good thread, but should I text her about thursday? Or just put the ball in her court since she left the conversation hanging?
 
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Well, I don't know how the time duration of her not responding. Maybe she fell asleep? Maybe she's eating? Maybe her phone died? Maybe she lost her phone? Maybe she's texting someone else? Maybe she's doing home work or research? Maybe she saw the video, thought about replying, decided she would reply later and forgot about it.

In all honesty though, I'm curious, why are you texting her that video? What is the purpose of it? What are you trying to achieve by texting a girl you've never met a "funny" video? I'm not being rhetorical either. Think hard and whatever your answer is to those questions should give you some clue.
 
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Okay

Well the last text I sent was at 1045 on Tuesday, she hasn't contacted me. I admit sending of the video was dumb, but I'm going to text her today in the am, something like "so are you still free today?"
 
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nmartinez12443 said:
Well the last text I sent was at 1045 on Tuesday, she hasn't contacted me. I admit sending of the video was dumb, but I'm going to text her today in the am, something like "so are you still free today?"
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Don't do that. Listen to what the guy above me said. Wait a week then text her again. Texting so soon will make you look too available especially since she didn't respond to that. You want your value to go up not down.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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nmartinez12443 said:
Meet this hb 7 girl last saturday. Made out with at a bar her high interest from her part. Text her on Sunday (yeah I know) this is what I said word for word.

Me: hey it's peter nice meeting someone from Florida
Hb7:haha thanks. Nice meeting a bilingual teacher :)
Tuesday

Me: hey it's Peter, what's up

Hb7:hello, I'm reading a book. U?
Me: setting up a guided reading lesson, what book?

Hb7:game of thrones book.
Me : I love that book seen every episode, don't tell me what happens to jofffry.

Hb7: uh oh..... I'm bad at spoiling endings. I'll do my best though. ;)
Me: well I don't know your schedule but we should do something grab a drink later this week

Hb7: I'm sure I can find time in my schedule for you:)
Me: how about Eros on Thursday at X:00?

Hb7: Eros?
Me: ya you'll like it, it's at such and such crosstreets (NO LINK -->)www.google.com/Eros/384848484893938484848 (basically a google search of Eros)
Hb7: do you sing karayoke
Me: I can't give away all my secrets. Have you seen this video I bet you 1000 dollars you can't make it through without laughing. Sent will ferrel in my plums
Hb7:my phone won't play it I'll try my tablet.
Me: will Ferrell in my plums, especially at 2 mins


She hasn't responded. How to proceed?
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The stuff in red should not have happened, the stuff in bold should have IMO. Obviously, texting can only get you so far though.
 
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Update

Okay thanks for the advice I will learn from my mistakes.

Me: hey I was wondering were we still going to do something tonight?
Her: yes :)

Me: okay cool come to 600 south 1st at like 730
Her: I'm not sure if I told you who I nanny for. But it's a 12 year old boy with severe autism. Anyways he is very special he's asking me/insisting not to leave. He does that often. So I'm going to be here with him until 8 or so.

Me: okay cool, I'll be ready at 9

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Okay guys just wanted to give closer on this thread thanks for the tips
 
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nmartinez12443 said:
Okay thanks for the advice I will learn from my mistakes.

Me: hey I was wondering were we still going to do something tonight?
Her: yes :)

Me: okay cool come to 600 south 1st at like 730
Her: I'm not sure if I told you who I nanny for. But it's a 12 year old boy with severe autism. Anyways he is very special he's asking me/insisting not to leave. He does that often. So I'm going to be here with him until 8 or so.

Me: okay cool, I'll be ready at 9

No response......


Okay guys just wanted to give closer on this thread thanks for the tips
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We'll she never showed up or even had the decency to text me and say she was going, deleted her number and all old texts. Amazing how a girl can make out with a dude seem super interested than poof. Thanks guys will redemn myself this weekend.
 
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nmartinez12443 said:
We'll she never showed up or even had the decency to text me and say she was going, deleted her number and all old texts. Amazing how a girl can make out with a dude seem super interested than poof. Thanks guys will redemn myself this weekend.
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Pathetic. I hate flakers. At least have the decency to say you aren't coming. Well, at least, you dodged a bullet.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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