"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Everyone knows the classic three-day "not too eager" rule, but...

squirrels

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What if you meet a girl and you get the impression that she just wants to F**K that night, but either her anti-slut defense or her friends or any other number of reasons prevent her from doing it, so you're forced to take her number.

Should you jump on it right away and call the next night? (strike while the iron's hot) Or should you just chill?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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JohnJones

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Personally I think you should keep to the rule and try to establish contact later with a view to duplicating the prior, almost succesful night.
 

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Personally I think you guys think too much. Just do it and get it over with.
 

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this is a totally stupid "rule". if you're following this rule because you think it's AFC or whatever, chances are you ARE AFC.

most of the time, it's SOOOOO plainly obvious to both parties that you're intentionally waiting the "appropriate" amount of time, so as NOT to appear "desperate". if you're trying not to appear desperate, you are desperate.

it all depends on how you execute. personally, i don't give a rats azz about this rule.

in your case, yes, strike while the iron is hot. then again, she might not be so hot when you call her.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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squirrels,

I hate to bring this up, but you seem to think that every girl out there wants to **** you upon meeting you. Maybe you're too eager to **** and it's screwing your game up?
 

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Originally posted by TooColdUlrick
this is a totally stupid "rule". if you're following this rule because you think it's AFC or whatever, chances are you ARE AFC.

most of the time, it's SOOOOO plainly obvious to both parties that you're intentionally waiting the "appropriate" amount of time, so as NOT to appear "desperate". if you're trying not to appear desperate, you are desperate.

it all depends on how you execute. personally, i don't give a rats azz about this rule.

in your case, yes, strike while the iron is hot. then again, she might not be so hot when you call her.
I agree.

Every girl out there knows that stupid little game even AFC's usually try to do that ****.
 

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Squirrels I think it's a mute point....

You do what you do - sometimes the chick will re-think or lose interest (or sober up)

Call her whenever - I personally think it matters not.
 

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if she just wants to fcuk you, i don't think any rules are going to apply...

that is more of a rule of challenge for a girl that is hard to get. and if she just wants to fcuk, then she is not thaaaaat.....

and rules are meant to be broken anyways.
 

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One more thing to add...

It matters not so long as you have a PLAN... i.e. your not calling to BS
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Do what ever feels right, its true, everybody knows the 3 day rule. However, I find that generally I am so busy that I usually get around to calling after 5 days, which seems to work absolutely fine. Althoguh, like you said if your only interested in banging her and your sure she is keen, go for it, end of the day what have you lost...a fvck, so be it, theres plenty more where that came from.

As someone who is developing as a man or DJ (whatever you would like to call it) we have to eventually form our own rules and define ourselves as ourselves not a puppet to a communities thought. These are guidelines to put you on a track of improvement but in the you have to be strong and confident enough to be able to break these bonds and be YOU
 
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