"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Everyone knows the classic three-day "not too eager" rule, but...

squirrels

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What if you meet a girl and you get the impression that she just wants to F**K that night, but either her anti-slut defense or her friends or any other number of reasons prevent her from doing it, so you're forced to take her number.

Should you jump on it right away and call the next night? (strike while the iron's hot) Or should you just chill?
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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JohnJones

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Personally I think you should keep to the rule and try to establish contact later with a view to duplicating the prior, almost succesful night.
 

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Personally I think you guys think too much. Just do it and get it over with.
 

TooColdUlrick

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this is a totally stupid "rule". if you're following this rule because you think it's AFC or whatever, chances are you ARE AFC.

most of the time, it's SOOOOO plainly obvious to both parties that you're intentionally waiting the "appropriate" amount of time, so as NOT to appear "desperate". if you're trying not to appear desperate, you are desperate.

it all depends on how you execute. personally, i don't give a rats azz about this rule.

in your case, yes, strike while the iron is hot. then again, she might not be so hot when you call her.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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squirrels,

I hate to bring this up, but you seem to think that every girl out there wants to **** you upon meeting you. Maybe you're too eager to **** and it's screwing your game up?
 

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Originally posted by TooColdUlrick
this is a totally stupid "rule". if you're following this rule because you think it's AFC or whatever, chances are you ARE AFC.

most of the time, it's SOOOOO plainly obvious to both parties that you're intentionally waiting the "appropriate" amount of time, so as NOT to appear "desperate". if you're trying not to appear desperate, you are desperate.

it all depends on how you execute. personally, i don't give a rats azz about this rule.

in your case, yes, strike while the iron is hot. then again, she might not be so hot when you call her.
I agree.

Every girl out there knows that stupid little game even AFC's usually try to do that ****.
 

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Squirrels I think it's a mute point....

You do what you do - sometimes the chick will re-think or lose interest (or sober up)

Call her whenever - I personally think it matters not.
 

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if she just wants to fcuk you, i don't think any rules are going to apply...

that is more of a rule of challenge for a girl that is hard to get. and if she just wants to fcuk, then she is not thaaaaat.....

and rules are meant to be broken anyways.
 

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One more thing to add...

It matters not so long as you have a PLAN... i.e. your not calling to BS
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Do what ever feels right, its true, everybody knows the 3 day rule. However, I find that generally I am so busy that I usually get around to calling after 5 days, which seems to work absolutely fine. Althoguh, like you said if your only interested in banging her and your sure she is keen, go for it, end of the day what have you lost...a fvck, so be it, theres plenty more where that came from.

As someone who is developing as a man or DJ (whatever you would like to call it) we have to eventually form our own rules and define ourselves as ourselves not a puppet to a communities thought. These are guidelines to put you on a track of improvement but in the you have to be strong and confident enough to be able to break these bonds and be YOU
 
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