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Put your work in. Yes, hit on babes if thin, young. attractive, and on top form SMV. More importantly, get your paper right. get a life, have your career/business life handled, hit the gym, keep healthy, be cultured, worldly, travel, and run game. GAME is all encompassing areas of life. Game is not running your health into the mud and chasing expired aesthetics into marriage or knocking up some soon to be fat hog only to play house with a woman in a moo moo.what would it be?
1000% TRUEIf you've attracted a woman, she will start building an image of you in her mind. If you put yourself into her world too often during this period, the most likely outcome is that you disconfirm the fantasy image she's constructed and you disappoint her. Let her work on that fantasy by not always being around.
I went on a date and hobbies and passions came up. I had an endless list and all she could come up with was she likes playing with her dog, traveling (for work) and eating at restaurants. The end of this topic of conversation was punctuated with "you really make me feel like I'm boring."Faaaaaaaaaaaack! This's been written here for 10 years and I didn't know it.
I once asked my ex "What are your hobbies and passions?". She looked down and started crying.
The only passions I knew she had was watching TV, going to restaurant, travelling, shopping and reading books. Everything else she tried she just stopped doing it after about 1 month.
HB: You really make me feel like I'm boring. The end of this topic of conversation was punctuated with "you really make me feel like I'm boring."
You said it, honey. Not me
Yes. Girls just wanna have fun."everyone, if you had one peice of advice to pass on to someone about women..."
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To the security/insecurity thought:First - Sell your pedestal, sniper rif1e and TV's on Craigslist - there's barrels full of crabs (aka Chumps) who'll pay top dollar for all that crap.
Next, in every interaction with women if things get confusing (or you want to be one step ahead of the rest) stop for a minute and think about the following which is so often parroted but never really explored deeper. Just one thing seems to drive women - a careful balance between Security and inSecurity.
When you are wondering why they are acting covertly, speak indirectly and doing things that make no sense just ask yourself this. If your primary programming was to balance security and insecurity at the same time wouldn't it then make sense to speak and act this way?
Women don't LJBF you because they are cowards or cunning or devious, they do it because they're afraid you'll go cave man on their arse and they found a way to avoid it. Rescuing & Saving - never works because your giving them security that they haven't had to earn. And in the end you'll just break yourself which ultimately makes them loose respect for you which directly translates to a life long sensation of inSecurity associated with the naive chump who thought his actions would earn him the prize.
All single women to some degree (especially the strong independent career types) provision their own security at a perceived level thus you had better bring that same level or better to the table as women don't like to "downgrade" when it comes to their feeling of security.
I could go on and on, but it finally clicked with me a while back. C&F, cold approaches, LJBF reversals, negs, etc, etc, etc are all just playing out a simple (or complex) dance between perceived security / insecurity.
When you see a guy with confidence around women, he is doing this (and often not aware of it). Their perception of security/insecurity is fascinating. When you establish and retain the frame as the prize you are continually playing out the dance they need yet have no real way of explaining to us.
And if it isn't confusing enough, just remember that our matrix programmed response to a women's perceived security needs is almost always 100% bassackwards. Example, we think they are the "one" or need to hear from us soon so we call to them back too quickly - next date she LJBF's or flakes - WTF? You just gave her the wrong type of security by not making her feel a healthy bit of insecurity first (she needs that dance to play out).
It's okay to have your head in the clouds, just have one foot on the ground too. Good women want to compliment your life and bring you up. If they're not doing that they are bringing you down and wasting your single most important resource - your time. Always listen to and follow your gut because it's your subconcious thwacking your left brain which is probably stuck in paralysis by analysis.
If you can't laugh at yourself, you take yourself too seriously. If laughter is warranted, you should be the first to laugh. If those laughing are just idiots, the laugh is really on them, anyway. There's nothing to fear in laughter.To the security/insecurity thought:
Men are afraid of being laughed at; women are afraid of being killed