Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single
She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.
You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.
The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.
ever think....
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"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
iqqi
Master Don Juan
naw, depression isn't a prob for me.hithard said:
i was just saying that as you get older life gets more boring. i mean, you've seen presidents come and go, wars, etc. - the novelty of things wears off.
like take barack vs. hilary - i could care less. regardless of who wins I know the future won't really be any different than the past.
i just think it would be cool if something dramatic were to happen that shook the world up a bit.
the history of mankind has been filled with some pretty dramatic events. the last one to happen, i think, was going to the moon.
but it seems like the past 30 years, nothing dramatic has really happened. yes, theres been lots of advancements, but no monumental events that just make you go 'holy crap, who would have ever thought we'd see this day?"
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Bible_Belt
Master Don Juan
Maybe yours does, but mine gets more interesting all the time. The way you live is up to you.
On an unrelated note, are you a fight fan, Joekerr? GSP beat Serra last night in Montreal. 21,000 drunk Canadian fans went apesh!t.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TO7NnAzWQoM
iqqi
Master Don Juan
It is important to use I statements when speaking to a sensitive audience.joekerr31 said:good thing what you think doesn't mean anything to me
and if possible could you do me a favor and not use oxymorons like phrases 'I think' in your posts.
I think, I feel... blah blah blah.
"May you have the knowledge of a sage and the wisdom of a child"
iqqi
Master Don Juan
Smart kid.Gubby said:
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Yeah just checking lol, take up a risky part time job.Bouncer in a hard part of town, porn star,strip club owner, Crime syndicate kingpin, or even dictator to a third world country.Wait did I get a bit extreme there?? anyway maybe live life in the fast lane for a few hours a week.Half the fun is usually getting there.Of course more times then not it all ends up in tears.joekerr31 said:
(TICA)
Joekerr is just like Tommy Lee Jones in Men in Black 2.
hahaha. yes, this is what im talking about.ElChoclo said:
im not depressed or nothing. im just tired of everything being so predictable.
and yes, i can go sky diving or something, but life itself is so predictable generally speaking.
now if aliens turned out to be true, or jesus came back, nothing would be predictable. every single of every day would be novel.
and i dont think its just me. i think the whole world is in some kind of wierd rut .
Bible_Belt
Master Don Juan
It can be if you let it.
Tonight, I rode my R1 to jiu-jitsu practice, hitting 160 mph on the way. Then I rolled with cage fighters for an hour. Then I went 140 mph on the way to my gf's house, had great sex, drank some beer, and went about 140 on the way home. It is funny looking up to see a road sign that says there is a curve ahead and to only go 30 mph, then looking down at my gauges to see that I am going 130 mph.
I am not telling you to do what I do, but merely making the point that you can have an interesting life if you want one. If your life is boring, then the blame belongs with you, and not on life itself.
My life may be a lot of things, but it's not boring and predictable.
Now that I have gotten through the thick of the BS I was going through, my life is once again moving in the right direction and I have a lot to look forward to.
Got a bad ass pad in the middle of the happenin' part of town, I know lots of interesting people and meet more all the time, I'm busy building a couple of businesses, hopefully I will be able to do some traveling again soon.....
Life only gets boring and predictable when you fall into a rut. I've been there before and I know it's no fun.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.