"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
ever think....
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
iqqi
Master Don Juan
naw, depression isn't a prob for me.hithard said:
i was just saying that as you get older life gets more boring. i mean, you've seen presidents come and go, wars, etc. - the novelty of things wears off.
like take barack vs. hilary - i could care less. regardless of who wins I know the future won't really be any different than the past.
i just think it would be cool if something dramatic were to happen that shook the world up a bit.
the history of mankind has been filled with some pretty dramatic events. the last one to happen, i think, was going to the moon.
but it seems like the past 30 years, nothing dramatic has really happened. yes, theres been lots of advancements, but no monumental events that just make you go 'holy crap, who would have ever thought we'd see this day?"
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Bible_Belt
Master Don Juan
Maybe yours does, but mine gets more interesting all the time. The way you live is up to you.
On an unrelated note, are you a fight fan, Joekerr? GSP beat Serra last night in Montreal. 21,000 drunk Canadian fans went apesh!t.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TO7NnAzWQoM
iqqi
Master Don Juan
It is important to use I statements when speaking to a sensitive audience.joekerr31 said:good thing what you think doesn't mean anything to me
and if possible could you do me a favor and not use oxymorons like phrases 'I think' in your posts.
I think, I feel... blah blah blah.
"May you have the knowledge of a sage and the wisdom of a child"
iqqi
Master Don Juan
Smart kid.Gubby said:
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Yeah just checking lol, take up a risky part time job.Bouncer in a hard part of town, porn star,strip club owner, Crime syndicate kingpin, or even dictator to a third world country.Wait did I get a bit extreme there?? anyway maybe live life in the fast lane for a few hours a week.Half the fun is usually getting there.Of course more times then not it all ends up in tears.joekerr31 said:
(TICA)
Joekerr is just like Tommy Lee Jones in Men in Black 2.
hahaha. yes, this is what im talking about.ElChoclo said:
im not depressed or nothing. im just tired of everything being so predictable.
and yes, i can go sky diving or something, but life itself is so predictable generally speaking.
now if aliens turned out to be true, or jesus came back, nothing would be predictable. every single of every day would be novel.
and i dont think its just me. i think the whole world is in some kind of wierd rut .
Bible_Belt
Master Don Juan
It can be if you let it.
Tonight, I rode my R1 to jiu-jitsu practice, hitting 160 mph on the way. Then I rolled with cage fighters for an hour. Then I went 140 mph on the way to my gf's house, had great sex, drank some beer, and went about 140 on the way home. It is funny looking up to see a road sign that says there is a curve ahead and to only go 30 mph, then looking down at my gauges to see that I am going 130 mph.
I am not telling you to do what I do, but merely making the point that you can have an interesting life if you want one. If your life is boring, then the blame belongs with you, and not on life itself.
My life may be a lot of things, but it's not boring and predictable.
Now that I have gotten through the thick of the BS I was going through, my life is once again moving in the right direction and I have a lot to look forward to.
Got a bad ass pad in the middle of the happenin' part of town, I know lots of interesting people and meet more all the time, I'm busy building a couple of businesses, hopefully I will be able to do some traveling again soon.....
Life only gets boring and predictable when you fall into a rut. I've been there before and I know it's no fun.
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.