Mr.Positive said:Write a book Joekerr. You have excellent insight, and a strong writing style.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Mr.Positive said:Write a book Joekerr. You have excellent insight, and a strong writing style.
You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.
I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.
Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.
These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.
naw, depression isn't a prob for me.hithard said:Hey joker, your not hitting early signs of depression or anything?
good thing what you think doesn't mean anything to meiqqi said:I've said before that I think Joekerr suffers from depression maybe even manic depression. His threads go from one end of the spectrum (hopeful and confident with the world around him), to the other (dismal and insecure about his prospects for happiness).
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
It is important to use I statements when speaking to a sensitive audience.joekerr31 said:good thing what you think doesn't mean anything to me![]()
and if possible could you do me a favor and not use oxymorons like phrases 'I think' in your posts.
Smart kid.Gubby said:Keep the best parts of youth and the best parts of age, as any time of your life! Age used badly is a curse, used well is a great blessing.
"May you have the knowledge of a sage and the wisdom of a child"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Yeah just checking lol, take up a risky part time job.Bouncer in a hard part of town, porn star,strip club owner, Crime syndicate kingpin, or even dictator to a third world country.Wait did I get a bit extreme there?? anyway maybe live life in the fast lane for a few hours a week.Half the fun is usually getting there.Of course more times then not it all ends up in tears.joekerr31 said:naw, depression isn't a prob for me.
i was just saying that as you get older life gets more boring. i mean, you've seen presidents come and go, wars, etc. - the novelty of things wears off.
hahaha. yes, this is what im talking about.ElChoclo said:This is the reason why people enjoy disaster movies and join religious cults which predict the end of the world. If you have ever watched a documentary about people who investigate alien visitations you find that they just take down the details in a very matter of fact way without any surprise. Why wouldn't they, since they claim to have heard the story many times before with similar details.
Joekerr is just like Tommy Lee Jones in Men in Black 2.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.