"The Kiss of Death Mistake"
You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
ever think....
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
iqqi
Master Don Juan
naw, depression isn't a prob for me.hithard said:
i was just saying that as you get older life gets more boring. i mean, you've seen presidents come and go, wars, etc. - the novelty of things wears off.
like take barack vs. hilary - i could care less. regardless of who wins I know the future won't really be any different than the past.
i just think it would be cool if something dramatic were to happen that shook the world up a bit.
the history of mankind has been filled with some pretty dramatic events. the last one to happen, i think, was going to the moon.
but it seems like the past 30 years, nothing dramatic has really happened. yes, theres been lots of advancements, but no monumental events that just make you go 'holy crap, who would have ever thought we'd see this day?"
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Bible_Belt
Master Don Juan
Maybe yours does, but mine gets more interesting all the time. The way you live is up to you.
On an unrelated note, are you a fight fan, Joekerr? GSP beat Serra last night in Montreal. 21,000 drunk Canadian fans went apesh!t.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TO7NnAzWQoM
iqqi
Master Don Juan
It is important to use I statements when speaking to a sensitive audience.joekerr31 said:good thing what you think doesn't mean anything to me
and if possible could you do me a favor and not use oxymorons like phrases 'I think' in your posts.
I think, I feel... blah blah blah.
"May you have the knowledge of a sage and the wisdom of a child"
iqqi
Master Don Juan
Smart kid.Gubby said:
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Yeah just checking lol, take up a risky part time job.Bouncer in a hard part of town, porn star,strip club owner, Crime syndicate kingpin, or even dictator to a third world country.Wait did I get a bit extreme there?? anyway maybe live life in the fast lane for a few hours a week.Half the fun is usually getting there.Of course more times then not it all ends up in tears.joekerr31 said:
(TICA)
Joekerr is just like Tommy Lee Jones in Men in Black 2.
hahaha. yes, this is what im talking about.ElChoclo said:
im not depressed or nothing. im just tired of everything being so predictable.
and yes, i can go sky diving or something, but life itself is so predictable generally speaking.
now if aliens turned out to be true, or jesus came back, nothing would be predictable. every single of every day would be novel.
and i dont think its just me. i think the whole world is in some kind of wierd rut .
Bible_Belt
Master Don Juan
It can be if you let it.
Tonight, I rode my R1 to jiu-jitsu practice, hitting 160 mph on the way. Then I rolled with cage fighters for an hour. Then I went 140 mph on the way to my gf's house, had great sex, drank some beer, and went about 140 on the way home. It is funny looking up to see a road sign that says there is a curve ahead and to only go 30 mph, then looking down at my gauges to see that I am going 130 mph.
I am not telling you to do what I do, but merely making the point that you can have an interesting life if you want one. If your life is boring, then the blame belongs with you, and not on life itself.
My life may be a lot of things, but it's not boring and predictable.
Now that I have gotten through the thick of the BS I was going through, my life is once again moving in the right direction and I have a lot to look forward to.
Got a bad ass pad in the middle of the happenin' part of town, I know lots of interesting people and meet more all the time, I'm busy building a couple of businesses, hopefully I will be able to do some traveling again soon.....
Life only gets boring and predictable when you fall into a rut. I've been there before and I know it's no fun.
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.