Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
IMO, she pulls back b/c you haven't cut the chord between you and her. Grab some metaphorical scissors and cut your ties!Moofahsa said:I'm in this very situation. I know she is no good. I know she is going no where, but every single time I move on she does something that pulls me back. She moves away and comes on weekends, I finally next her..she moves back to my area...I push away, she comes on stronger.
I just can't toss her out and it is driving me mad.
Dude I had the same problem a few years ago and this girl still calls every once in awhile. Even though I stoped accepting her calls and texts they still pop up. The sad thing is it brings back some good times but **** it she's done and I've already banged better. That's how you have to look at it.Moofahsa said:I'm in this very situation. I know she is no good. I know she is going no where, but every single time I move on she does something that pulls me back. She moves away and comes on weekends, I finally next her..she moves back to my area...I push away, she comes on stronger.
I just can't toss her out and it is driving me mad.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Moofahsa said:I'm in this very situation. I know she is no good. I know she is going no where, but every single time I move on she does something that pulls me back. She moves away and comes on weekends, I finally next her..she moves back to my area...I push away, she comes on stronger.
I just can't toss her out and it is driving me mad.
That is exactly what I don't understand, I have other women I can get with. I'm not a player by any means, but I have 2 others I can use as fall backs when I'm needed some. They are not super hot or anything, but we can hook up one night and then not speak to each other for weeks. I dunno, they are simple? They both look better than the girl I'm hung up on, I just don't understand.DonJuan11 said:IMHO you have oneitis. If you had a few girls on the go, she would just be another one.
Moofahsa said:That is exactly what I don't understand, I have other women I can get with. I'm not a player by any means, but I have 2 others I can use as fall backs when I'm needed some. They are not super hot or anything, but we can hook up one night and then not speak to each other for weeks. I dunno, they are simple? They both look better than the girl I'm hung up on, I just don't understand.
I don't know, I think I invested so much time on this broad that I am scared to lose all the time I spent? I dunno. All I can say is ever since I got over my phobia of women my life has been so damned complicated it is unreal. It is like a freakin soap opera everyday, have a new baby daughter from a girl I have nothing in common with...I have had SEVERAL girls I got with turn into clingy freaks. Ugh
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.
That makes such perfect sense. Damn.DonGorgon said:LOL... most men secretly love hos and sluts but hate the fact that they cant control them...