She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
IMO, she pulls back b/c you haven't cut the chord between you and her. Grab some metaphorical scissors and cut your ties!Moofahsa said:I'm in this very situation. I know she is no good. I know she is going no where, but every single time I move on she does something that pulls me back. She moves away and comes on weekends, I finally next her..she moves back to my area...I push away, she comes on stronger.
I just can't toss her out and it is driving me mad.
Dude I had the same problem a few years ago and this girl still calls every once in awhile. Even though I stoped accepting her calls and texts they still pop up. The sad thing is it brings back some good times but **** it she's done and I've already banged better. That's how you have to look at it.Moofahsa said:I'm in this very situation. I know she is no good. I know she is going no where, but every single time I move on she does something that pulls me back. She moves away and comes on weekends, I finally next her..she moves back to my area...I push away, she comes on stronger.
I just can't toss her out and it is driving me mad.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Moofahsa said:I'm in this very situation. I know she is no good. I know she is going no where, but every single time I move on she does something that pulls me back. She moves away and comes on weekends, I finally next her..she moves back to my area...I push away, she comes on stronger.
I just can't toss her out and it is driving me mad.
That is exactly what I don't understand, I have other women I can get with. I'm not a player by any means, but I have 2 others I can use as fall backs when I'm needed some. They are not super hot or anything, but we can hook up one night and then not speak to each other for weeks. I dunno, they are simple? They both look better than the girl I'm hung up on, I just don't understand.DonJuan11 said:IMHO you have oneitis. If you had a few girls on the go, she would just be another one.
Moofahsa said:That is exactly what I don't understand, I have other women I can get with. I'm not a player by any means, but I have 2 others I can use as fall backs when I'm needed some. They are not super hot or anything, but we can hook up one night and then not speak to each other for weeks. I dunno, they are simple? They both look better than the girl I'm hung up on, I just don't understand.
I don't know, I think I invested so much time on this broad that I am scared to lose all the time I spent? I dunno. All I can say is ever since I got over my phobia of women my life has been so damned complicated it is unreal. It is like a freakin soap opera everyday, have a new baby daughter from a girl I have nothing in common with...I have had SEVERAL girls I got with turn into clingy freaks. Ugh
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
That makes such perfect sense. Damn.DonGorgon said:LOL... most men secretly love hos and sluts but hate the fact that they cant control them...