Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
IMO, she pulls back b/c you haven't cut the chord between you and her. Grab some metaphorical scissors and cut your ties!Moofahsa said:I'm in this very situation. I know she is no good. I know she is going no where, but every single time I move on she does something that pulls me back. She moves away and comes on weekends, I finally next her..she moves back to my area...I push away, she comes on stronger.
I just can't toss her out and it is driving me mad.
Dude I had the same problem a few years ago and this girl still calls every once in awhile. Even though I stoped accepting her calls and texts they still pop up. The sad thing is it brings back some good times but **** it she's done and I've already banged better. That's how you have to look at it.Moofahsa said:I'm in this very situation. I know she is no good. I know she is going no where, but every single time I move on she does something that pulls me back. She moves away and comes on weekends, I finally next her..she moves back to my area...I push away, she comes on stronger.
I just can't toss her out and it is driving me mad.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Moofahsa said:I'm in this very situation. I know she is no good. I know she is going no where, but every single time I move on she does something that pulls me back. She moves away and comes on weekends, I finally next her..she moves back to my area...I push away, she comes on stronger.
I just can't toss her out and it is driving me mad.
That is exactly what I don't understand, I have other women I can get with. I'm not a player by any means, but I have 2 others I can use as fall backs when I'm needed some. They are not super hot or anything, but we can hook up one night and then not speak to each other for weeks. I dunno, they are simple? They both look better than the girl I'm hung up on, I just don't understand.DonJuan11 said:IMHO you have oneitis. If you had a few girls on the go, she would just be another one.
Moofahsa said:That is exactly what I don't understand, I have other women I can get with. I'm not a player by any means, but I have 2 others I can use as fall backs when I'm needed some. They are not super hot or anything, but we can hook up one night and then not speak to each other for weeks. I dunno, they are simple? They both look better than the girl I'm hung up on, I just don't understand.
I don't know, I think I invested so much time on this broad that I am scared to lose all the time I spent? I dunno. All I can say is ever since I got over my phobia of women my life has been so damned complicated it is unreal. It is like a freakin soap opera everyday, have a new baby daughter from a girl I have nothing in common with...I have had SEVERAL girls I got with turn into clingy freaks. Ugh
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.
That makes such perfect sense. Damn.DonGorgon said:LOL... most men secretly love hos and sluts but hate the fact that they cant control them...