"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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So yeah,ever had those complete sh!t days when everything goes as fcking horrible as it gets ? You know..work , school , approaches ?


To top it off I've heard some sh!t about my ex and her new bf (some friends just cant shut the fvck up and mind their own sh!t) ,over which I'm not over yet,apparently. I feel like it got to me way way more than it should've.


I'm just curious how you guys get back on track when you get knocked the fvck out.



I'm not gonna go all out drama with "OMG I WANNA GIVE UP OMG OMG". I dunno , I'm just curious how you guys handle sh!t like this. I'm not doing so fly today. Before this ex bullsh!t I have never felt un-motivated in my entire life. Now I just feel like I don't give a fvck about anything , and I'm hating myself for it. I'm better than this.

It's so weird being emotionally volatile like this. I've never experienced stuff like this before breaking up with her.The fvck..
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Make every effort to do things YOU enjoy doing.

Eating out, hanging out with friends, listening to music that gets you in a positive mode, hobbies you're passionate about etc...
 

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DRUGZ

jk, that just exacerbates the cycle. I play guitar a lot when things are sh!tty. Really, anything that's productive that makes me feel like I'm accomplishing something. The right friends help with this. Get out of the house, though, that's best.
 

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I don't really like to b!tch about it to my friends. It feels good ,yeah,but then they ask about it the next day and the next , and I prefer not to think about it as much as possible. Good sugestions otherwise.Drugz especially. I might go do that. (kidding ^_^)
 

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Just look for the one (or several) thing that calms you down and makes you realize that ʂhit ain't so bad, tomorrow's a new day.

Somewhere, someone just got diagnosed with a very bad illness this very moment. You think that person gives a ʂhit about his ex now? No. So, as long as you are a healthy guy with a working d!ck, never let anything get you down, for nothing will ever be worse than a bad health scenario. Relax, you'll get through it.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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R.C said:
So yeah,ever had those complete sh!t days when everything goes as fcking horrible as it gets ? You know..work , school , approaches ?
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Absolutely. But you need to remember that without low points you can't have high points. If things were always at a high point, the high point would become normal and you'd focus on other problems.

You need to let the low points inspire you to improve. Don't settle for feeling that way. Work out, go out, meet new women, etc. But especially focus on your career and your skills because money is often the difference between high and low points.
 

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bigneil said:
Absolutely. But you need to remember that without low points you can't have high points. If things were always at a high point, the high point would become normal and you'd focus on other problems.

You need to let the low points inspire you to improve. Don't settle for feeling that way. Work out, go out, meet new women, etc. But especially focus on your career and your skills because money is often the difference between high and low points.

Makes a lot of sense. The bolded part is pretty much my general philosophy of live.

It's just that before breaking up I literally have never been emotionally unstable like this.Ever.I'm being all pessimistic & **** at times. It's just so new.I hope this doesn't stick as I don't like it at all . I wanna get back to my old self :yes:


Anyway , thanks for the advice. Much appreciated. I actually thought I'd get bashed for this topic.


Vlad said:
Somewhere, someone just got diagnosed with a very bad illness this very moment. You think that person gives a ʂhit about his ex now? No. So, as long as you are a healthy guy with a working d!ck, never let anything get you down, for nothing will ever be worse than a bad health scenario. Relax, you'll get through it.
Although I understand your POV , I try to never compare my life to other peoples'. Some guy is deathly ill right now , while some other dude just won the lottery. I don't wanna get into the habit of cherry-picking.

I know I'll eventually get through this **** , I just needed a few ways to keep my mind occupied until then ^_^.


Again,appreciate the advice :yes:
 

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Being rejected by the group used to mean certain death in ancient times. It's depressing for good reason.
 

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You sound like you are about to cry. You are seriously crying over a hoe? Lol. Join your local poetry club and express all the feelings the hoe brought out in you.
 
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