"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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So yeah,ever had those complete sh!t days when everything goes as fcking horrible as it gets ? You know..work , school , approaches ?


To top it off I've heard some sh!t about my ex and her new bf (some friends just cant shut the fvck up and mind their own sh!t) ,over which I'm not over yet,apparently. I feel like it got to me way way more than it should've.


I'm just curious how you guys get back on track when you get knocked the fvck out.



I'm not gonna go all out drama with "OMG I WANNA GIVE UP OMG OMG". I dunno , I'm just curious how you guys handle sh!t like this. I'm not doing so fly today. Before this ex bullsh!t I have never felt un-motivated in my entire life. Now I just feel like I don't give a fvck about anything , and I'm hating myself for it. I'm better than this.

It's so weird being emotionally volatile like this. I've never experienced stuff like this before breaking up with her.The fvck..
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Make every effort to do things YOU enjoy doing.

Eating out, hanging out with friends, listening to music that gets you in a positive mode, hobbies you're passionate about etc...
 

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jk, that just exacerbates the cycle. I play guitar a lot when things are sh!tty. Really, anything that's productive that makes me feel like I'm accomplishing something. The right friends help with this. Get out of the house, though, that's best.
 

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I don't really like to b!tch about it to my friends. It feels good ,yeah,but then they ask about it the next day and the next , and I prefer not to think about it as much as possible. Good sugestions otherwise.Drugz especially. I might go do that. (kidding ^_^)
 

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Just look for the one (or several) thing that calms you down and makes you realize that ʂhit ain't so bad, tomorrow's a new day.

Somewhere, someone just got diagnosed with a very bad illness this very moment. You think that person gives a ʂhit about his ex now? No. So, as long as you are a healthy guy with a working d!ck, never let anything get you down, for nothing will ever be worse than a bad health scenario. Relax, you'll get through it.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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R.C said:
So yeah,ever had those complete sh!t days when everything goes as fcking horrible as it gets ? You know..work , school , approaches ?
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Absolutely. But you need to remember that without low points you can't have high points. If things were always at a high point, the high point would become normal and you'd focus on other problems.

You need to let the low points inspire you to improve. Don't settle for feeling that way. Work out, go out, meet new women, etc. But especially focus on your career and your skills because money is often the difference between high and low points.
 

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bigneil said:
Absolutely. But you need to remember that without low points you can't have high points. If things were always at a high point, the high point would become normal and you'd focus on other problems.

You need to let the low points inspire you to improve. Don't settle for feeling that way. Work out, go out, meet new women, etc. But especially focus on your career and your skills because money is often the difference between high and low points.

Makes a lot of sense. The bolded part is pretty much my general philosophy of live.

It's just that before breaking up I literally have never been emotionally unstable like this.Ever.I'm being all pessimistic & **** at times. It's just so new.I hope this doesn't stick as I don't like it at all . I wanna get back to my old self :yes:


Anyway , thanks for the advice. Much appreciated. I actually thought I'd get bashed for this topic.


Vlad said:
Somewhere, someone just got diagnosed with a very bad illness this very moment. You think that person gives a ʂhit about his ex now? No. So, as long as you are a healthy guy with a working d!ck, never let anything get you down, for nothing will ever be worse than a bad health scenario. Relax, you'll get through it.
Although I understand your POV , I try to never compare my life to other peoples'. Some guy is deathly ill right now , while some other dude just won the lottery. I don't wanna get into the habit of cherry-picking.

I know I'll eventually get through this **** , I just needed a few ways to keep my mind occupied until then ^_^.


Again,appreciate the advice :yes:
 

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Being rejected by the group used to mean certain death in ancient times. It's depressing for good reason.
 

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You sound like you are about to cry. You are seriously crying over a hoe? Lol. Join your local poetry club and express all the feelings the hoe brought out in you.
 
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