"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Ever Dumped A Chick, Then Got Her Back?

soulforge

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Long story short.. was seeing a chick, awesome sex.. but we fought over some pathetic little issue.. she stopped talking to me, and after one week of no contact with her.. i ended it..


I want to reel her back in as a plate..

She maybe involved with someone else.. but i,m not sure..


Any dudes on here, got rid of a chick, then pulled her back in?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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PairPlusRoyalFlush said:
grow a pair dude this girl is fvkced up beyond repair and does not give 2 fux about you

Fvcked up beyond repair lol.. nice.. i have two other plates now, so i thought she might make a good addition lol
 

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Pairs right Soul..FUBAR. Stick with clean slate plates, none of this dirty broken sh*tty plates. Oi!
 

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Why is the new conventional wisdom "make every chick you've ever dealt with a plate." We used to talk about how important it was to move on, and get away from the women who weighed us down. That's what being a DJ is, getting rid of the excess in life, and trying to live a life free from bad women and stupid pressures.

But now it's like "I broke it off with a BPD. I want her as a plate. How do I proceed?" "I fvcked a fat chick.....but want her as a plate. Advice?" The idea of plate spinning was that inbetween relationships you'd be chasing several women at once, then if things didn't work out with one, you'd still have others to choose from. It was a way to boost confidence and your skills at chasing women. It wasn't made with the idea that people would still be chasing a "HB 8 from Subway" two years later.

Remember one of the most important DJ ideas that we've gotta be moving foward. You can't be doing so when you're still messing around with women from your past.
 

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I agree Zapp. I don't want my BPD ex as a plate. I don't want anything to do with her. I'd prefer to meet someone else that makes me forget all about her haha.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Yeah I did this several times with a low self esteem chick a few years ago, it was as easy as saying "i want you back"

I wouldn't advise it, you'll never be satisfied, and it prevents you improving so you can find someone better.
 

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Is this the same topic about that same chick? Or a new one about a new girl?


In any case, you shouldn't want an old used crap again. Why would you
 

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We buy a new car… it does not live up to our expectations, or is a flat out lemon.
Why would anyone want to buy it back after it's had another driver/owner…
 
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