ever deal with a girl in a long term relationship?

[duke104]

I met this girl at a party last thursday and I couldn't help but notice she was pretty flirty with me (she kept grabbing me to go dance, lots of playful touching, etc) I knew who this girl was before I met her through a mutual friend and I knew that she's been dating some dude for like 3 years.

Later that night we were outside having a cigarette and my buddy asked her about her boyfriend. I forgot exactly what she said but from what I took from it it sounded like she wasn't too into him (I do remember her saying that at this point in the relationship she's only attracted to his personality, or something like that).

I also saw her the next 2 nights cause we were both at the same parties and I did notice that she was by me the majority of the night and not once by her boyfriend.

Anyways, the girl gave mer her number and we've been texting here and there. Would it be a bad idea to go after her cause of the whole boyfriend thing, despite the signs shes giving off?

 

[duke104]

sorry, stupid browser posted the same thing twice. please disregard this post. can i delete it?

 

[Jair213]

i went through a long distance relationship, NOT WORTH IT!!! It was a DISASTER!! Plus your not only dealing with her having a bf but long distance too. Thats a BIG FAIL!!! You'll have a better chance hitting on the girl down the street.

 

[duke104]

i said long TERM, not long distance haha

 

[Jair213]

oooohh .. pfft well in that case, in your situation, i'd try to just smash, see were it leads

 

[Alex DeLarge]

make her dump the BF first, then proceed.

 

[bigneil]

All hot girls have a long term boyfriend. If she's dating you then she is losing interest in him but won't necessarily want to officially end it. Why put pressure on her? If she wants to see you, great. If not, she likes him. But to give her an ultimatum is pointless. Concentrate on getting her to like you more, then she'll be asking you for a relationship and he'll go by the wayside.