"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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ever deal with a girl in a long term relationship?

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I met this girl at a party last thursday and I couldn't help but notice she was pretty flirty with me (she kept grabbing me to go dance, lots of playful touching, etc) I knew who this girl was before I met her through a mutual friend and I knew that she's been dating some dude for like 3 years.

Later that night we were outside having a cigarette and my buddy asked her about her boyfriend. I forgot exactly what she said but from what I took from it it sounded like she wasn't too into him (I do remember her saying that at this point in the relationship she's only attracted to his personality, or something like that).

I also saw her the next 2 nights cause we were both at the same parties and I did notice that she was by me the majority of the night and not once by her boyfriend.

Anyways, the girl gave mer her number and we've been texting here and there. Would it be a bad idea to go after her cause of the whole boyfriend thing, despite the signs shes giving off?
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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sorry, stupid browser posted the same thing twice. please disregard this post. can i delete it?
 
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i went through a long distance relationship, NOT WORTH IT!!! It was a DISASTER!! Plus your not only dealing with her having a bf but long distance too. Thats a BIG FAIL!!! You'll have a better chance hitting on the girl down the street.
 
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oooohh .. pfft well in that case, in your situation, i'd try to just smash, see were it leads
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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make her dump the BF first, then proceed.
 
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All hot girls have a long term boyfriend. If she's dating you then she is losing interest in him but won't necessarily want to officially end it. Why put pressure on her? If she wants to see you, great. If not, she likes him. But to give her an ultimatum is pointless. Concentrate on getting her to like you more, then she'll be asking you for a relationship and he'll go by the wayside.
 
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