"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Events threw me off

captain55

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So i finally found a chick im interested in. Had coffee for two hours Wednesday. Asked her out for Saturday yesterday and she texted me back saying she’s in the hospital running a fever and has to get her tonsils out. She got sick the day after we went out.....She said “I’ve been moaning in pain all morning and throwing up” and we talked for a bit.

Put me in an awkward situation because if i ask her if she wants me to come by it makes me look weird considering i only went out with her one time and it was only coffee.

However if i don’t offer to do anything it makes me look like a piece of ****.

I just said “really sorry to hear that.. call me if you need anything.” To not look needy or anything. Didn’t want to look like a selfish ******* that has no sympathy for a girl in the hospital either.

Im afraid the momentum from the date is going to be lost now since too much time has gone by. Should i text her to follow up how she’s doing or just wait until i run into her at the gym again ?

Just awkward situation...if i show that i care i risk looking weird or desperate considering i barely know this girl . If i don’t contact her i risk her thinking im a piece of ****
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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marmel75

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Yeah life can get in the way sometimes. Nothing you can do about it.

Just date other women in the meantime and when she is ready to get together she will ler you know.
 

Billtx49

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After one coffee date your statement to her was fine. Try not to over analize your words and actions.
 

wifehunter

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your head is in the wrong place...I'd, get it together, then revisit the situation.
 
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