"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Eternal Bachelors Holidays

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Any Eternal Bachelors here ?
Specially those >35yrs old
how do you spend time during holidays ,when others are all with family
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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<Raises hand>

Will eat dinner with dad. Bro and his wife are visiting too this Xmas.

Not sure about New Years. I'll probably go to a party at the dance studio.

Alone on the holidays doesn't bother me much.

It's my birthdays where I've gone out alone for the past 7 years or so. That's what really sucks.
 
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Being alone on the holidays makes single women feel extra lonely, which makes them extra easy. Especially in regard to getting them to skip the dating bs and go straight to sex.
 
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Bible_Belt said:
Being alone on the holidays makes single women feel extra lonely, which makes them extra easy. Especially in regard to getting them to skip the dating bs and go straight to sex.
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So true. I've had extraordinarily great luck on Valentine's Day also. No women wants to look single.

OP, I'm still a bachelor. Not going to BS you, but holidays can get pretty lonely, but I stay close to my family and friends so it's not so bad. The day after the holiday, the loneliness subsides, and it's back to business as usual.
 
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Any Bachelors over 35 without family ,whats your plan for dec holidays ?

Think I will travel to big city and connect with those travelling ...

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So true. I've had extraordinarily great luck on Valentine's Day also. No women wants to look single.
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“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Mike32ct said:
Bro and his wife are visiting too this Xmas.

It's my birthdays where I've gone out alone for the past 7 years or so. That's what really sucks.
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It does suck at times but you kind of accept it in a way. Spend it with family if you can. When that's not an option then friends.....even though 90% of mine that live closed are coupled up, at this age, I'm usually the lone bachelor wherever I go.

It does sometimes have it's advantage though, one of these couples will have a chick friend that's recently single and visiting, that kind of thing. But, in general, it's not something to rely on. Just push through. It is what it is.
 
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Peaks&Valleys said:
It does suck at times but you kind of accept it in a way. Spend it with family if you can. When that's not an option then friends.....even though 90% of mine that live closed are coupled up, at this age, I'm usually the lone bachelor wherever I go.

It does sometimes have it's advantage though, one of these couples will have a chick friend that's recently single and visiting, that kind of thing. But, in general, it's not something to rely on. Just push through. It is what it is.
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Agreed. Thanks.
 
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Single or not I'm always at my parents house. It's not too bad but definitely harder emotionally when I'm single. Eventually I would like to have a family of my own. My sister and two brothers are all married with kids so I don't know what I did wrong.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Wheter alone or in company all this mandatory holydays make me nervous and depressed, cant wait till they go the fvck out.
Either that or emotional, I was with gf at the restaurant last week and got some strange vibe there listening that the xmas songs.
 
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You're looking at it all wrong IMHO. If you were in a relationship right now, you'd have a whole set of new problems. You have more presents to buy (more $), more demands on your time and you might just have to navigate some awkward family dynamics.

I'm sure there are plenty of coupled-off men who long for the days they were single.
 
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Lexington said:
You're looking at it all wrong IMHO. If you were in a relationship right now, you'd have a whole set of new problems. You have more presents to buy (more $), more demands on your time and you might just have to navigate some awkward family dynamics.

I'm sure there are plenty of coupled-off men who long for the days they were single.
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Ain't that the truth! Plus you don't have to deal with Honey-Pie's retarded family that you can't stand. lol
 
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I’ve been researching this topic for a few hours and found this post pretty helpful. Thanks for compiling the info in one spot.
 
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The only thing that sucks for me during this time of the year is being with family, so much awkward tension involving my dad towards the rest of them around the holidays.

If I was with someone it'd just make things even more awkward having her around to deal with it.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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I spend time with my mom and sisters and after all the festivities are done and my stomach is full i go back home and call one of my plates over and we have sex.
 
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I have spend several Christmas by myself and I like it a lot. I can be without women for decades and I can be hartbroken for many years. My father died, my mother died and my X died in the last couple of years. I broke my arm and my hip last year. God may think she can break me but I am unbreakable, I eat this **** for breakfast and I like it, :)
 
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