You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
So true. I've had extraordinarily great luck on Valentine's Day also. No women wants to look single.Bible_Belt said:Being alone on the holidays makes single women feel extra lonely, which makes them extra easy. Especially in regard to getting them to skip the dating bs and go straight to sex.
origin138 said:So true. I've had extraordinarily great luck on Valentine's Day also. No women wants to look single.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Solid plan. Traveling women are usually a very good bet.carrot said:Think I will travel to big city and connect with those travelling ...
It does suck at times but you kind of accept it in a way. Spend it with family if you can. When that's not an option then friends.....even though 90% of mine that live closed are coupled up, at this age, I'm usually the lone bachelor wherever I go.Mike32ct said:Bro and his wife are visiting too this Xmas.
It's my birthdays where I've gone out alone for the past 7 years or so. That's what really sucks.
Agreed. Thanks.Peaks&Valleys said:It does suck at times but you kind of accept it in a way. Spend it with family if you can. When that's not an option then friends.....even though 90% of mine that live closed are coupled up, at this age, I'm usually the lone bachelor wherever I go.
It does sometimes have it's advantage though, one of these couples will have a chick friend that's recently single and visiting, that kind of thing. But, in general, it's not something to rely on. Just push through. It is what it is.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Lexington said:You're looking at it all wrong IMHO. If you were in a relationship right now, you'd have a whole set of new problems. You have more presents to buy (more $), more demands on your time and you might just have to navigate some awkward family dynamics.
I'm sure there are plenty of coupled-off men who long for the days they were single.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.