Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
So true. I've had extraordinarily great luck on Valentine's Day also. No women wants to look single.Bible_Belt said:Being alone on the holidays makes single women feel extra lonely, which makes them extra easy. Especially in regard to getting them to skip the dating bs and go straight to sex.
origin138 said:So true. I've had extraordinarily great luck on Valentine's Day also. No women wants to look single.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Solid plan. Traveling women are usually a very good bet.carrot said:Think I will travel to big city and connect with those travelling ...
It does suck at times but you kind of accept it in a way. Spend it with family if you can. When that's not an option then friends.....even though 90% of mine that live closed are coupled up, at this age, I'm usually the lone bachelor wherever I go.Mike32ct said:Bro and his wife are visiting too this Xmas.
It's my birthdays where I've gone out alone for the past 7 years or so. That's what really sucks.
Agreed. Thanks.Peaks&Valleys said:It does suck at times but you kind of accept it in a way. Spend it with family if you can. When that's not an option then friends.....even though 90% of mine that live closed are coupled up, at this age, I'm usually the lone bachelor wherever I go.
It does sometimes have it's advantage though, one of these couples will have a chick friend that's recently single and visiting, that kind of thing. But, in general, it's not something to rely on. Just push through. It is what it is.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Lexington said:You're looking at it all wrong IMHO. If you were in a relationship right now, you'd have a whole set of new problems. You have more presents to buy (more $), more demands on your time and you might just have to navigate some awkward family dynamics.
I'm sure there are plenty of coupled-off men who long for the days they were single.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.