Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Escaping the Torture Zone

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Back Story: Met a chick through a friend of a friend while home in NY over the summer. We hit it off, but she had a BF she didn't want to cheat on so we just chilled. A few months later she broke up with him and started texting me 24/7, saying she couldn't wait to seem me next time I come home. After a month of this, I went home for the holidays. We chilled the first day and had a great time, but she resisted any moves on my part, which I'm not used to. We spooned all night (I stayed at her place) and it was torture. I got aggravated and ended up not seeing her the rest of the trip. I leave, and the day I get back she wants to fly out to see me.

Now: She's here, staying with me for several more days, but it's the same situation. Not getting anywhere physically, but she's putting pictures of us on the internet and calling my dog hers. We're also having a great time hanging out.

I don't ever put sex on a pedestal and always just try to have a good time, but I'm not a strong enough man to have a gorgeous girl sleep next to me every night while I'm not getting any, especially when I have other GF's I could be seeing. I woke up today with blue balls I'd wish upon no man.

Any help would be much appreciated, because I'm clueless and going a little crazy.

Thanks
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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You are acting needy.
She just did a branch swing, she wants to fill the gap of bf.
You now back off and act like normal, uneffected and be funny and outgoing. If you push hard she might move away from you and find an other guy
 
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I hear ya. I've just been my normal self though. Not pushy or needy. Just showed her a great time, then when we went to bed I made a subtle move and we made out for a few seconds, then when she stopped I didn't push it or say a word of my frustration. I just acted like it was cool and went to sleep.
 
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I agree with the guy who said she pulled a branch swing. Only difference is, you're not her f**king boyfriend, so you have no reason to tolerate this stuff.

Either she needs to step up, or step away. Now you're stuck with this girl in your apartment for several days, and she's not putting out. So that means any other plates you want to bang are inaccessible.

When I'm in your position, I just cut the girl off. She needs to be put on ice while she decides whether or not she wants to bang. But I damn sure won't have some girl sleeping in my bed night after night when it's not sexual. This isn't 8th grade.

She gets the benefit of a boyfriend (attention, Facebook postings, someone to cuddle with at night) without making any type of commitment to you, sexual or otherwise. F**k that.

If you're stuck with her for a few more days, the best you can do is cut off the affection. Let her wonder if you're losing sexual interest. Then perhaps she escalates in order to keep you on the hook.
 
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Exactly. It looks like as soon as her BF was out of her life, she needed someone to fill that void asap. I would otherwise never put up with this nonsense. I've got other chicks that I'm having to tell I'm too busy with work to see right now. And sleeping next to me in my tempurpedic is a privilege.

I'm going to go cold asap and see if I can salvage something, if not she's probably going to have to get used to sleeping on a couch for the next week.

Much obliged
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Iceberg said it perfectly.


Keep us informed. I'm interested to see how it plays out.
 
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Make her sleep on the couch. If she asks why, tell her straight up.
 
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Bring another woman to your place and have sex with her while she sleeps on the couch.
 
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Update: Freezed her out the rest of the day, then she had a total attitude switch. All was well for the next 48 hours. Sex was great. Then out of nowhere yesterday morning, things got worse than before. Now it just sits on my couch texting and has no interesting in doing anything.

My mind is completely blown.

I'm just ignoring her and seriously considering having another chick come over while she's here, just to prove a point.

Any ideas? And yes, the couch is where it will sleep tonight if it doesn't fix its attitude.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I wouldn't tolerate hot and cold behavior in my home. I would have already shown her the door.
 
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